fell in love with her here:
@davidgraeber: I’ve never been married before. Even though the proper ceremony is later, in London & Berlin, I have never been more moved than that someone who actually knows me would want to be with me forever.
then (after googling her) fell in love some more: ie: http://a4kids.org/ et al
adding page shortly after this.. and resonations with this comment: brings me comfort to know that when he left this world he was surrounded by her love – renata
My favorite picture of @davidgraeber https://t.co/q0jjEEcnpz
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Hey friends, can you tell me how do you make yourself finish projects? How are you avoiding rushing or jumping from one case to another? It is a problem for me. That said, I am a rather diligent person, brought up in the traditions of Soviet puritanism. 1/
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[added the it is me page (2013) just after a year with our experimentation w a museum of care .. people were thinking they were free of school curriculum – but it’s so engrained in us.. they kept trying to write one.. as you say ‘make themselves do something’.. we found this seeming freedom to be hugely compromising to fittingness.. and so then also to belonging ness – which we found to be the two basic needs/essence of human being]
after adding thread here.. someone replied to nika: I free flow and allow priorities to show themselves.. then do those..regroup and regroup constantly.. allowing the flow where least resistance appears.. if there is resistance then… why must the project be completed .. go where the energy naturally leans? Less consuming so…
and her response: Yes, but if you work with other people, that most of us are going, then they depend upon you.
ie: cure ios city
allows/orgs for the ‘free flow.. regroup regroup constantly‘ your friend writes about
again.. brown belonging law
I can make myself do almost anything. But as soon as I start to force myself, the result (and the process) become pitiful and self-defeating. I get pitiful texts, tortured drawings and so on. David and I talked a lot about it.
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that’s all of us.. (if we’re honest w/selves).. and why the supposed to’s of school/work and any form of people telling people what to do – (even if it’s yourself).. and any form of measuring/accounting (what is a project.. why must i finish it.. et al) .. is killing us.. is perpetuating not us ness
In this seemingly mess, there was a consciously designed internal organization. I would compare @davidgraeber ‘s arrangement to a complex but well-functioning architectural structure in which different people, circumstances and spaces coexist and reinforce each other.
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exactly.. would you rather appear to be a mess or be a mess (magis esse quam videri)..
Nika Dubrovsky (@nikadubrovsky) tweeted at 6:27 AM on Sat, Nov 07, 2020:
A really important question is how to take control of the means of production of the symbolic order in which we live.
Everything else will happen by itself.
then this will happen by itself: ‘in undisturbed ecosystems ..the average individual, species, or population, left to its own devices, behaves in ways that serve and stabilize the whole..’ –Dana Meadows
Nika Dubrovsky (@nikadubrovsky) tweeted at 6:38 AM on Sat, Nov 07, 2020:
Interesting thing is that everybody “pay attention to the symbolic order”, even people who does not know that it exist.
was talking to @brewster_kahle from @internetarchive
They avoid the logic of buying and selling content. Instead, they work in the paradigm of the library: borrow and return. Read it and give it back. That’s the way to do it, naturally. https://t.co/oOfbnRZFyG
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for everything.. aka: commoning ness
it’s not that we don’t have enough resources.. it’s that we’ve lost what it means to be resourceful
2\ if we create a way to ground the chaos of 8b free people
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Nika Dubrovsky (@nikadubrovsky) tweeted at 6:58 AM on Sun, Nov 29, 2020:
My son Benjamin turn 18 today. His childhood and my motherhood were difficult, but I hope all hardship will be credited to him by the Heavenly Bookkeeping for future joy and success. This was about the time I met @davidgraeber https://t.co/XysHtkRtFd
@nikadubrovsky: My сlever therapist recently noted that unconditional love is not the love of parents for their kids, because parents always want something from kids: to be smarter or kinder or something else, but it is the love of children for their parents. 1/
@nikadubrovsky: Children, even those who have been betrayed and tormented, continue to think about their parents, even if they have the strength to stop toxic relationships, and often, their fates are aligned with what happened to them in childhood. 2/
Nika Dubrovsky (@nikadubrovsky) tweeted at 6:48 AM on Wed, Dec 23, 2020:
How to relate to this is not very clear: doesn’t seem to be any justice here, nothing rational.
from m of care – jan 1:
nika: i want to create.. not meet and decide how to create..
this is huge nika.. we don’t need the structure/decision before.. we need to listen to the itch-in-8b-souls first.. and use that data to org us.. makes for less dm/consensus ness.. if at all.. but only if we trust us.. unconditionally.. which means.. we trust people to figure out what to do.. what they’ll need.. how to get it .. or how to find people to help them get it.. et al.. we don’t need to set things up for them (ie: dm process/structure) first.. because.. any form of people telling other people what to do.. is really saying.. you don’t trust them to figure it out for themselves.. (the only reason we need – at least an initial – mech to undo our hierarchical listening is because currently we all need that detox) – no one needs to manage/train/prep/teach anyone
again.. need to refocus our ‘starting place’.. so that we don’t have invisible hierarchy going gone.. i.e.: daily curiosity as our data to org us.. rather than deciding how to org..
ie: imagine if we
nika: the aim is to escape this problem.. there is no good structure
nika: we’re trying to invent the system in which all can be used.. so that everyone can make their own decision
Nika Dubrovsky (@nikadubrovsky) tweeted at 4:19 PM on Fri, Jan 01, 2021:
and I spoke shortly before he died. He said we have no idea what awaits us. It’s entirely possible that we wake up the next morning.
And that’s exactly how I plan to relate to death (and life). https://t.co/npecCTOJqF
Nika Dubrovsky (@nikadubrovsky) tweeted at 3:53 AM on Wed, Dec 30, 2020:
Women are given to choose between poverty and the social ostracism of “independence” or the traditional values of patriarchy with all that entails. There are exceptions (my husband @davidgraeber), but they only confirm the rules. Would not it be lovely to change them? 5/
yes.. absolutely and completely.. imagine if we
@davidgraeber and I are talking about:
What could possibly be wrong with loving your children? https://t.co/n0M4v9U3Wo via @YouTube
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i’ve watched a lot of convos/talks of david’s.. this is the first/only i’ve seen where he’s talking to/with nika.. calmest .. most relaxed.. i’ve ever seen him.. love that
3 min – so care is transformed into this force that divides people.. one of the things i’ve been looking at.. how care turns into a pernicious phenom.. how it turns into almost a form of violence.. t
and there are so many diff ways that it happens.. and one of the ways.. the simplest perhaps.. that you can’t care equally for everyone and obviously you’re going to care for your own children most of all .. most people will.. and i think in a lot of ways having kids is a way of giving up being selfless toward society at large.. or other people.. people accept incredible injustice.. ie: ‘i know that what i’m doing is evil.. but i do it for my children.. i know that the system obscene and destructive .. but i’ll just think of my children’.. and esp that’s what holds us together over time.. really care about kids and their future.. but in order to do that you have to keep the institutional more or less the same 20 yrs from now.. there’s a deep social conservatism that comes out of the future that you envision for your children..t
yeah that.. again maté parenting law
@davidgraeber seemed very un-American in the best sense and reminded me of Soviet Jewish intellectuals who are warm and antibourgeois!
She’s right. David was like that.
When I settled down with him, it felt like I had come home to a perfect childhood. https://t.co/OXDIZoUst9
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yeah.. love that.. would explain ‘calm’ ness mentioned of david above
thread from link to talk of david on care and freedom
So we need to think what are ways that we need to care for each other that will make each other more free?
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let’s org for/around that (as infra)
ie: maté basic needs
@monk51295 @dosmesdoscinc I think he was saying “people live in town, no one lives in the national state.” But I am thinking: could we or should we all move to the countryside. I am in the center of London now and it is deadly.
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we need an infrastructure.. where it doesn’t matter where you live
as the peasantry becomes communicative and active it ceases to exist as a separate political category, causing a decline in the political significance of the division between town/country.. paradoxically, the final victory of the peasant revolution is the end of the peasantry (as a separate political category).. in other words, the ultimate political goal of the peasantry it its own destruction as a class
to nika‘s question
figure of peasant.. discovers itself to be part of the multitude.. one of numerous singular figures of labor/life.. that despite difference share common conditions of existence..
I don’t know if there is a medical term for it, but is it possible that David and I had something like “time dyslexia?” The good thing is that we supported each other as best we could in our common misfortune. 1\
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Plus, not caring about the time allowed us to forget about “important things” and often just write, read, and do nonsense. Our mornings with David were fantastic. We chatted, drank coffee, fooled around. Afterward, though, we were sure to be late for something. 2/
man sieht nur mit dem herzen gut.. das wesentliche ist für die augen unsictbar .. der kleine prinz
Serious and neat people couldn’t afford that. 3/
My life in Germany, where everything is planned out, where people agree to come to lunch two months in advance at a precise time and are never late, was quite agonizing. 4/
artist and writer lives in London and Berlin
more on her work (and headshot image on top of page) found here: https://theinstitute.info/?p=3752