nika dubrovsky


fell in love with her here:

@davidgraeber: I’ve never been married before. Even though the proper ceremony is later, in London & Berlin, I have never been more moved than that someone who actually knows me would want to be with me forever.

brown belonging lawthe opposite of belonging.. is fitting in.. true belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are.. it requires you to be who you are.. and that’s vulnerable.. –Brené Brown

david graeber and fittingness

then (after googling her) fell in love some more: ie: et al

adding page shortly after this.. and resonations with this comment: brings me comfort to know that when he left this world he was surrounded by her love – renata

and while digging into this: museum of care (like year 2 of our experimentation)


My favorite picture of ⁦@davidgraeber⁩

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thread addressing the it is me ness needed in museum of care:

Hey friends, can you tell me how do you make yourself finish projects? How are you avoiding rushing or jumping from one case to another? It is a problem for me. That said,  I am a rather diligent person, brought up in the traditions of Soviet puritanism. 1/

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let go of project ness.. of productivity ness.. ie: the it is me.. #1 and 2 of graeber and wengrow freedom law

[added the it is me page (2013) just after a year with our experimentation w a museum of care .. people were thinking they were free of school curriculum – but it’s so engrained in us.. they kept trying to write one.. as you say ‘make themselves do something’.. we found this seeming freedom to be hugely compromising to fittingness.. and so then also to belonging ness – which we found to be the two basic needs/essence of human being]

after adding thread here.. someone replied to nika: I free flow and allow priorities to show themselves.. then do those..regroup and regroup constantly.. allowing the flow where least resistance appears.. if there is resistance then… why must the project be completed .. go where the energy naturally leans? Less consuming so…

and her response: Yes, but if you work with other people, that most of us are going, then they depend upon you.

this is why we need to org around daily curiosityas infra

ie: cure ios city

allows/orgs for the ‘free flow.. regroup regroup constantly‘ your friend writes about

we doubt ourselves.. because we’re not hearing the itch-in-the-soul first thing every morning.. and so we’re distracted from that foundation/fittingness and start flailing ..

the key to all of this.. believing that the best thing i can give to the world.. to the dance.. is to legit be myself..

again.. brown belonging law

and why we came to focus on maté basic needs as a means to org 8b legit free people

I can make myself do almost anything. But as soon as I start to force myself,  the result (and the process) become pitiful and self-defeating. I get pitiful texts, tortured drawings and so on. David and I talked a lot about it. 

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that’s all of us.. (if we’re honest w/selves).. and why the supposed to’s of school/work and any form of people telling people what to do – (even if it’s yourself).. and any form of measuring/accounting (what is a project.. why must i finish it.. et al) .. is killing us.. is perpetuating not us ness

black science of people/whales law

this is huge for museum of care.. need to be legit spaces of free\domspaces of permission (to do/quit whatever) .. where people have nothing to prove

In this seemingly mess, there was a consciously designed internal organization. I would compare @davidgraeber ‘s arrangement to a complex but well-functioning architectural structure in which different people, circumstances and spaces coexist and reinforce each other. 

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exactly.. would you rather appear to be a mess or be a mess (magis esse quam videri)..

we need a global museum of care (aka: a people experiment) where we can get back/to non hierarchical listening.. (aka: trust us to be enough as we are)

huge for museum of careunconditional ness


Nika Dubrovsky (@nikadubrovsky) tweeted at 6:27 AM on Sat, Nov 07, 2020:
A really important question is how to take control of the means of production of the symbolic order in which we live. 
Everything else will happen by itself.

perhaps is this is our order/org: 2 convers as infra

then this will happen by itself: ‘in undisturbed ecosystems ..the average individual, species, or population, left to its own devices, behaves in ways that serve and stabilize the whole..’ –Dana Meadows

Nika Dubrovsky (@nikadubrovsky) tweeted at 6:38 AM on Sat, Nov 07, 2020:
Interesting thing is that everybody “pay attention to the symbolic order”, even people who does not know that it exist.


was talking to @brewster_kahle from @internetarchive 
They avoid the logic of buying and selling content. Instead, they work in the paradigm of the library: borrow and return. Read it and give it back. That’s the way to do it, naturally.

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for everything.. aka: commoning ness

it’s not that we don’t have enough resources.. it’s that we’ve lost what it means to be resourceful

our findings:

1\ undisturbed ecosystem (common\ing) can happen

2\ if we create a way to ground the chaos of 8b free people


another art world



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artist and writer lives in London and Berlin

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