graeber parent/care law

care about kids and their future.. but in order to do that you have to keep the institutional more or less the same 20 yrs from now.. there’s a deep social conservatism that comes out of the future that you envision for your children. – david graeber

maté parenting law et al

wisdom of trauma – parenting

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from david graeber and nika dubrovsky convo jul 2020:

@davidgraeber and I are talking about:
What could possibly be wrong with loving your children? https://t.co/n0M4v9U3Wo via @YouTube

Original Tweet: https://twitter.com/nikadubrovsky/status/1355303418156507144

i’ve watched a lot of convos/talks of david’s.. this is the first/only i’ve seen where he’s talking to/with nika.. calmest .. most relaxed.. i’ve ever seen him.. love that

graeber violence in care law:

3 min – so care is transformed into this force that divides people.. one of the things i’ve been looking at.. how care turns into a pernicious phenom.. how it turns into almost a form of violence.. t

maté parenting law et al – on care for children even turning to structural violence ie: supposed to’s of school/work et al

and there are so many diff ways that it happens.. and one of the ways.. the simplest perhaps.. that you can’t care equally for everyone and obviously you’re going to care for your own children most of all .. most people will.. and i think in a lot of ways having kids is a way of giving up being selfless toward society at large.. or other people.. people accept incredible injustice.. ie: ‘i know that what i’m doing is evil.. but i do it for my children.. i know that the system obscene and destructive .. but i’ll just think of my children’.. and esp that’s what holds us together over time.. really care about kids and their future.. but in order to do that you have to keep the institutional more or less the same 20 yrs from now.. there’s a deep social conservatism that comes out of the future that you envision for your children..t

yeah that.. again maté parenting law

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graeber care/free law

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from murray bookchin‘s ecology of freedom:

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in many respects, *‘civilization’ involves a massive enterprise to undo the impact of maternal care nurture, and modes of thought on the character structure of the offspring.. the imagery of growing up has actually come to mean growing away from a maternal, domestic world of mutual support , concern and love into one made shapeless, unfeeling and harsh.. to accommodate humanity to war, exploitation, political obedience ..t.. and rule involves the undoing not only of human ‘first nature’ as and animal but also of human ‘second nature’ as a child who lives in dependency and protective custody under the eyes and in the arms of its mother.. what we so facilely call ‘maturity’ is not ordinarily an ethically desirable process of growth and humanization.. to become an ‘autonomous’ ‘perceptive’ ‘experienced’ and ‘competent’ adult involves terms that historically possess very mixed meanings.. **the child’s growth away form the values of a caring mother toward autonomy and independence becomes a cultural travesty and a psychological disaster when it results in a youth’s degrading dependency upon the caprices of an egotistical and unfeeling taskmaster.. t

huge huge huge

*jensen civilization law.. maté parenting law.. graeber parent/care law.. et al **khan filling the gaps law .. et al

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