maté basic needs 2018

mate needs

the fundamental reality is that we are all human beings.. and we basically all have the same needs.. your fundamental needs are human needs you share w every other human on earth

Gabor Maté restate/reaffirm ing.. maté basic needs law:

gabor mate quote


gabor on authenticity & attachment – 2023


feb 2021 – 9 min video (animated by after skool):

gabor on addiction/trauma/needs

we need to org for necessities.. ie: a nother way


dec 2018 on a Human Pain and Healing – Gabor Maté Interview: []

45 min podcast (times below counting backwards)

34 min – whole thing comes down to a human difficulty in holding pain – we look for external solutions to our internal pain.

33 min – when i can learn to hold that pain is when there’s a nurturing adult who gets what you feel.. and holds you.. then the child learns that the pain comes and goes.. but so many of us don’t have that experience.. because parents are too stressed/distracted

32 min – so we have our pain.. but we don’t know how to move thru it.. because nobody is holding us thru it the way that we need to be held.. therefore.. pain becomes unbearable and promises to be eternal unless we do something to kill the pain.. and that’s where the addiction comes in..t

and so the addictions.. to drugs/alchohol/sex/shopping/eating/internet/porn/gambling/whatever.. always an attempt to numb the pain temp.. because of difficulty we have in holding the pain and being vulnerable to it


26 min – specifically mental health.. no body has ever discovered a single gene that has caused mental illness.. so if it’s the environ that turns genes on/off.. which is the case.. then let’s look at the environ.. what kind of environ’s do people need to become full, self-expressed, present, functional human beings..t

hari rat park law

undisturbed ecosystem

in the city.. as the day.. via gershenfeld something else law

these are questions politicians/society don’t want to deal with.. because those questions threaten the way things are run much of the time..t

24 min – any living creature.. if a plant isn’t growing in your backyard.. you’d ask yourself.. what is it missing..t

almaas holes law

human nature is that we have certain needs.. if met.. going to be ok.. if not met.. might not be..t

maté basic needs law

let’s focus on that.. ie: 2 convers as infra

23 min – human beings are ultimately creatures of connection.. if there’s no connection.. there’d be no human life.. no human being could evolve on his/her own.. if we were like snakes.. we wouldn’t survive.. we were wired to connect.. that wiring for connection stays with us all our lives.. so we’re social creatures.. that’s part of our nature

thurman interconnectedness lawwhen you understand interconnectedness it makes you more afraid of hating than of dying – Robert Thurman (@BobThurman)

hari addiction law

22 min – and fundamentally what happens is.. whatever diminishes/denies/subverts our need for connection is going to lead to some kind of pathology

22 min trauma is the disconnection.. the essence of trauma is disconnection from *self/others.. t

*maté basic needs law

and it happens because the connections weren’t there to protect you.. the attachment wasn’t there to hold you

missing piece #2

21 min – the more exclusion people suffer.. either as individuals in childhood.. or as people.. the more likely they are going to be addicted.. but exclusion is not sufficient for that..  ie: colonized people.. doesn’t just exclude native but does everything to destroy self concept

missing piece #1

so exclusion but also destruction of self.. that’s what leads to addiction.. t

missing pieces

but what is the fundamental reality..? the fundamental reality is that we are all human beings.. and we basically all have the same needs.. your fundamental needs are human needs you share w every other human on earth..t

all – nationality: human with maté basic needs

so let’s go that deep.. ie: deep enough for 7bn people to resonate with today..

via 2 convers as infra

[whole talk on pain page]


adding page this day – (fb via kevin on across the board ness)


1 min clip from crazywise (a&a) – also at maté basic needs (video):


Gabor Maté, M.D., discusses the conflict children and adults often face staying true to their authenticity while potentially jeopardizing their important relationships. Full interview at:

#authenticity#crazywiseconversations #mentalhealth

Original Tweet:

let’s go that deep
let’s design infra around that

ie: 2 convers as infra.. as the day


whyte competency law

thunberg deeper problem law


2 needs and a cure

maté trump law
maté basic needs law
maté not yet scrambled law
maté addiction law
healing (roots of) – [here Gabor talks about A H Almass as person he may quote most ..maybe person i quote most is Gabor .. since my he’s basis/insight of a nother way]
human nature
when the body says no
scattered .. add
in the realm of hungry ghosts ..  addiction
maté acting out law
gabor on democracy now
gabor on capitalism
gabor on hate
maté trauma law
almaas holes law
maté sensitivity law
(gabor on) pain