gabor on addiction/trauma/needs

How Childhood Trauma Leads to Addiction – Gabor Maté – jan 2021

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Someone made this video out of my Dad’s talk on addiction. Really beautiful work. via @YouTube

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maté addiction law

2 min – 2 needs:

maté basic needs 2018

maté basic needs (video)

1\ attachment – not a negotiable need

missing piece #2

4 min –

2\ authenticity – how long do you survive if not connected to gut feelings

missing piece #1

so what happens if authenticity threatens your attachment needs

maté trump law

5 min – that very dynamic which is essential for human survival in a natural setting.. now becomes a threat for survival in this .. more modern setting.. which.. the authentic is to threaten attachments..t

maté parenting lawgraeber parent/care law

brown belonging law

so we give up our authenticity .. and then we wonder who the hell we are.. and that’s where the healing happens.. that reconnection

healing (roots of)

graeber care/free law

it’s because of that tragic conflict of authenticity and attachment in childhood that most of us face that we lose our selves

6 min – these leads to trauma.. to transform pain.. trauma is not what happens to you.. the trauma is what happens inside you.. disconnect from self/others/world..t

gabor on childhood trauma

begs a means/mech undo our hierarchical listening.. to self/others/nature

imagine if we

7 min – so addiction is not the primary problem.. it’s the attempt to solve the problem.. the question is .. how did the problem arise.. my theory is that it is always rooted in childhood trauma.. and the addiction is the attempt to deal w the childhood trauma.. t.. which it does temporarily.. while it creates even more problem in the long term

taleb center of problem law

cope\ing ness needed because of missing pieces

so the issue is not just to recognize what happened.. 10.. 15.. 30.. however many years ago.. but to actually recognize the manifestations in the present moment

ie: none of us are us.. wilde not-us law.. whales.. et al

and to transcend that.. and how do you do that..? by reconnecting w yourself..

imagine if we just focused on listening to the itch-in-8b-souls.. first thing.. everyday.. and used that data to augment our interconnectedness.. we might just get to a more antifragile, healthy, thriving world.. the ecosystem we keep longing for..

what the world needs most is the energy of 8b alive people

8 min – what does it mean to revoer.. to find again.. so what is it that people when they recover – they find themselves.. the loss of self is the essence of trauma.. so the real purpose of addiction/mental-health treatment.. any kind of healing.. is reconnection..t

but we also need rat park.. otherwise.. attachment will keep trumping authenticity.. humanity needs a means to leap.. to get back/to simultaneous spontaneity .. simultaneous fittingness.. everyone in sync..

we need tech/ai as it could be – to augment our interconnectedness

imagine if we org’d ourselves around maté basic needs.. ie: 2 conversations as infra


wisdom of trauma (doc)

gabor on why addicted to everything