telling people what to do
same on issuee: [https://issuu.com/monk51295/docs/telling_people_for_pdf]
upon googling ‘what do you call people telling people what to do’:
people who tell people what to do – thesaurus. disciplinarian. noun. someone who thinks that people should obey rules and punishes people who do not. autocrat. noun. someone who tells other people what to do without caring what they think. dictator. noun. tyrant. noun. nag. noun. control freak. noun. slave driver. noun. …
huge red flag we’re doing it wrong..
but ..so much is not so obvious (like giving/demanding rights/voice only perpetuate the telling people what to do ness) and so killing us deeply/unknowingly.. (raised eyebrows, pretending/claiming to hear all the voices, ..et al)
if we don’t let go of all that.. we’ll never get the dance:
imagine if we just focused on listening to the itch-in-8b-souls.. first thing.. everyday.. and used that data to augment our interconnectedness.. we might just get to a more antifragile, healthy, thriving world.. the ecosystem we keep longing for..
adding page this day (tweets from vinay – at bottom of this thread: https://threadreaderapp.com/thread/1290486109642743811.html):
I wanted to manifest my power as not being told what to do.
The world expected me to manifest my power as telling other people what to do.
What am I supposed to do now, write a book of law?
Original Tweet: https://twitter.com/leashless/status/1290505081243271168
So that’s cracked my head right open.
Because now I can add “telling people what to do” in my list of potential game moves. I have to figure out how not to get entangled in control (the main failing on this strategy) but, if people want rules and structure, I can publish mine.
Original Tweet: https://twitter.com/leashless/status/1290505466741698560
As no less a poet than Bjork famously said, “I thought I could organize freedom, how Scandinavian of me.”
Original Tweet: https://twitter.com/leashless/status/1290506942222405633
org freedom: cure ios city
True power is getting an individual to believe that the way you want them to behave is the way they want to behave.
Original Tweet: https://twitter.com/Sisyphus38/status/1310162877660254208
@starsandrobots yes. You must have perfect grades & you must have spent all your free time doing adult approved activities.
Original Tweet: https://twitter.com/iwelsh/status/1313069052424851456
I’m careful how I think about care.
Care can be oppressive.
Care can be debting.
Care is nasty when someone assumes they know what is best for another person- Or group -Or a forest.
Care can be a violent implemention of a model.
Or care can be responding to complexity w affection
Original Tweet: https://twitter.com/NoraBateson/status/1319213745789435904
closest i’ve read yet to getting rid of red flags – moxie on democracy
from graeber readings:
2\ to say no – to refuse orders – a matter of not being told what to do.. not about having more things.. but that having more things allowed you to tell others what to do is what they found objectionable..
in fact in english please is short for if you please.. if it pleases you to do this.. it is the same in most european languages.. it’s literal meaning is ‘you are under no obligation to do this’ .. this is not true; there is a social obligation and it would be almost impossible not to comply.. but etiquette largely consists of the exchange of polite fictions (to use less polite language, lies).. when you as someone to pass the salt.. you are also giving them an order.. by attaching word please.. you are saying that it is not an order.. but in fact it is..
from red flags page:
any form of inspectors of inspectors