the it is me

the it is me huge graphic

This is the longest I’ve ever seen you stick with anything.

Many of us have heard this sentiment in various forms. It’s one that carries huge weight/value/shame in our society. Generally referencing – are you committed & strong, as opposed to lazy & weak. But what does that mean?

sticking with it

Perhaps a more useful question, what is the it?

Just because we’ve programmed ourselves to look at outcomes, finished products, commitment to the end of a thing… doesn’t mean that’s really how life works. And in particular.. doesn’t mean that’s what matters most.

We have such an issue with commitment, with follow through, with productivity – getting the job done. Mostly because we’ve decided that by finishing things, that’s how you earn value, earn your way into places, like college, and a career.

What if we have that all wrong? (Schulz, Wurman)

What if it’s not that people aren’t finishing it, sticking with it, committed to it, but it’s that we’re looking at the wrong it. We’ve grown accustomed to defining people by certain its/projects/accolades/paperwork, rather than letting people, the person themself, be the it.

What if we just don’t have our eyes open enough to take everything in. What if some/any/whatever project that does have an end, isn’t really worth all this fuss after all. Where do most of those projects (especially in school) end up? Perhaps people matter more than the it we’ve been touting/selling/pushing.

what if the it worth


Say I have 3 projects I finished, enough for people to see them, touch them, agree that they’re finished. Enough to give me a grade/badge/diploma. That could be really cool. It could also be really fake. Either way… it’s on paper, so it counts.. today.

Now say, I have 35 projects I started, enough for people to see them, touch them, agree that they’re not finished. Enough to ask me why I didn’t stick with them. That could be really cool, if we embraced it. Most likely those would not be fake (there’s no reward for not finishing things). Perhaps it’s not that I’m not sticking to it, if the it is me. All these things are me, flavors/colors of me. I started something, I learned from it, who’s to say when the end is. Who’s to say there is an end. Who’s to say what’s a failure and what’s a finding. Perhaps what appears to be unsightly – is the unassuming trail to greatness/remarkableness/you – that we are missing.

Perhaps a good response, to why aren’t you sticking with it, is,

oh but i am sticking

Imagine we start looking at a person’s partial projects. How much more color/flavor might we see? Imagine we start looking at the person. Lean in to people.

The new safe place requires us to look others in the eye and see them, truly see them. – Icarus Deception

So now I keep my eyes open hoping to take in all I can. – Anastasia Mayhew

Perhaps we take the whole person in. At least all we can. Perhaps whimsy matters.

bot ist art ist entire cleanerest

Perhaps my issues with commitment, will resolve themselves if I decide to stick to becoming/being me. (Buendia, Goldstein, Mate)

Perhaps I could give myself permission to fall in love with everything. (Otterbein)

onlyness celebrate

disclaimer – i’m never just me.

and so – perhaps i know you..

antifragility – the ever changing all of us all our seemingly mess\i\ness


the key to all of this.. believing that the best thing i can give to the world.. to the dance.. is to legit be myself..

brown belonging lawthe opposite of belonging.. is fitting in.. true belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are.. it requires you to be who you are.. and that’s vulnerable.. –Brené Brown

and why we came to focus on maté basic needs as a means to org/infra 8b legit free people


I don’t think it looks like a series of folded-over mistakes and do-overs that have shaped our lives. Instead, I think we’ll conclude in the end that maybe we’re all a little like human origami and the more creases we have, the better.      – Bob Goff, Love Does


oh the dance


you cannot oppress the people who are not afraid (ashamed) anymore. .. – Eleanor Longden


embrace your inner wiring.. – Emilie Wapnick


in Tim Ferrisstribe of mentors p 517

peter attia:

(on bad advice to student): you’ve spent x years learning y, you can’t just up and leave and now do z.. i think this is flawed because it weighs too heavily the time behind you, which can’t be changed, and largely discounts the time in front of you, which is completely malleable..

bravery to change mind

the it is me

bateson reductionism law

mumford non-specialized law


via maria..

maalouf:  I scour my memory to find as many ingredients of my identity as I can. I then assemble and arrange them. I don’t deny any of them


the more we realize the fruitless pursuit of some missing piece (by realizing the it is me ness), the less we will be missing it.

output ness


off script ness


from seth’s

choose to redefine whatever we’re doing as the thing we’ve chosen to do, right here and right now.

what if our only label was our daily curiosity..

as the day ness.. finding the bravery to change your mind.. the it is me.. revolution of everyday life. . a nother way

sans the supposed to’s.. of school/work et al


That uncle or aunt who kept their distance from the rest of the family will start making more sense to you as you get older. (

not sure of the context.. but as is.. very resonating


miller extreme focus law


comics as unflattening




networked individuaism graphic