same on issuu:
adding page while frustratingly re reading hold on to kids:
the chief and most damaging of the competing attachments that undermine parenting authority and parental love is the increasing bonding of our children w their peers
authority again.. and it precedes love.. and love is tagged w parental.. which has been tagged w authority.. dang
they are not manageable, teachable, or maturing because they no longer take their cues from adults.. instead, children are being brought up by immature person s who cannot possibly guide them to maturity. they are being brought up by each other
manageable, teachable,. ugh
the term that seems to fit more than any other for this phenom is peer orientation. it is peer orientation that has muted our parenting instinct, eroded our natural authority and caused us to paren not form the heart bur from the ad . from manuals, the advice of ‘experts’ and the confused expectations of society
wow.. peer orientation seems to be more of a cope/ing mech.. because parents aren’t/weren’t there.. weren’t listening.. were too busy authority-ing.. too busy w parental love rather than unconditional love..
an even scarier thought is that if peers have replaced adults as the ones who matter most, what is missing in those peer relationships is going to have the most profound impact.. absolutely missing in peer relationships are *unconditional love and acceptance.. the ability to extend oneself for the sake of the other, the desire to nurture, the willingness to sacrifice
*this is what’s missing from the adults as well – ie: authority ness and managing ness.. is not unconditional love
and that will never happen unless we 100% trust each other (are you human. ok then. i trust you are your being) by saving a ton of energy and just assume good
this can be made easier to us (most all of us) contaminated with civilized/manufactured/sanitized/coerced/et-al toxins of supposed to’s.. via the mediums of school/work etc if we practice ie: gershenfeld something else law back/to an undisturbed ecosystem:
‘in undisturbed ecosystems ..the average individual, species, or population, left to its own devices, behaves in ways that serve and stabilize the whole..’
unconditional trust – an oxymoron..
from Deeyah Khan
One of the consistent threads speaking to extremists is that so many of them had experiences of being on the outside. What these violent movements provided was unconditional acceptance’ – @Deeyah_Khan https://t.co/biVG2iyggU
Original Tweet: https://twitter.com/Fuuse/status/1116692814887309312
imagine if unconditional ality.. to everyone.. was a norm.. no one had to go searching for it
from 30 min film of Nic Askew – from his monday newsletter oct 7 2019:
3 min – most people are at it as a search for something that we already are.. which to me seems utterly absurd.. this is tense ness which populates every hour of every day about having to do something in a particular way to get to a particular place.. but here we are.. and when one is still enough one realizes what one is a part of and that there was no condition.. and it’s only in that place that you start to realize what it is that you are.. and that there was no requirement.. there was nothing needed.. by anyone.. not even yourself..
supposed to’s.. killing us
14 min – at the heart of it you just know that you are.. not who you are.. and that you are unconditionally.. that there was never any condition to it.. i think that is probably the biggest misperception of being a human being.. you just belong.. that’s all i have to say on the matter.. there’s nothing else