unconditional trust – an oxymoron..
perhaps some things take more of an all-or-nothing approach/mindset.
perhaps trust is one of those things. no?
[and perhaps even worse than no freedom, because not only do you not have freedom, you’re assuming that you do.]
too many people think we can’t trust learning, we can’t trust the learner, we can’t trust essentials to show up. perhaps their analysis comes from experimenting with only a half a shot of trust. or more accurately/recently, 20% a shot. which generally results in us thinking that people appear to need mandates/rules/compulsory-curriculum. the evidence seems clear, that without them, we humans have a propensity toward laziness.
what if that’s not the whole story. what if people actually have a propensity toward hard work, it just needs to matter to them. and what if, because we haven’t yet experimented with 100% choice/trust, the idea of societies built on trust are reaffirmed to be a utopian fantasy. not because they are (utopian fantasy), but because we haven’t trusted them to not be. perhaps that’s why we are missing it. [holacracy et al law ness]
Dov shares with us that trust is a drug. That Aristotle taught us that..
And that neuroscientists have since proven that trust literally is akin to a drug because oxytocin is released in the brain when someone feels that someone is trusting them and they reciprocate the trust by extending trust back and you create a virtuous cycle of coming together and becoming closer where you can collaborate more.
Keith Darcy (via Kevin Carson’s desktop regulatory state, ch 8) suggests that …
one way for organizations to immunize themselves against the wikileaks threat is to “create a culture of trust,..
Clay says that getting back to a trust culture from our market obsession will be tough, because we’ve allowed the idea of buying/owning things/each-other to change our perception of people. [shirky transaction law]
Jerry challenges us to reimagine what it would be like if we trusted you/us/people.
And Chimamanda warns us of the danger of not trusting that people are more than the current/visible story, that each one of us are deep/rich/multiple/ongoing stories.
Jonathan says there’s nothing more important than being trusted.. because we edit out people we don’t trust.
imagine a world where people spend their days alive/aware/awake, because they start them by trusting each other, by deciding everyday to..
we spend so much time/energy/money/people today doing much the opposite of that. we get so caught-up/lost in defense/policy/rights/judgement/retribution/prestige/fear.. if we abandoned all that for trust.. we’d all be very rich in time/energy/money/people.. no?
unconditional trust – an oxymoron..
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from nov 2014 connected courses unit 5 session:
extremely horrifying. often our fears overwhelm that potential.
not about trusting myself enough to control it.. make sure right outcomes.. i just have to trust myself enough to hold this space.. which is diff than trying to fix it..
creating spaces for people to see each other.. spaces where people feel safe enough to be vulnerable and show people who they really are..
“Trust requires an intelligent judgement.” How to be smart about who you trust: t.ted.com/IH0bdrQ
Trust requires an *intelligent judgement of trustworthiness. So those who want others’ trust have to do two things. First, they have to be trustworthy, which requires competence, honesty and reliability. Second, they have to provide **intelligible evidence that they are trustworthy, enabling others to judge intelligently where they should place or refuse their trust.
how is that trust..?.. that’s just judgement.. and *intelligent judgement to boot.. who..
and how do you provide **intelligible evidence you are trustworthy..?
noun: 1\firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.
verb: 1\ believe in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of.
if there has to be proof.. i don’t see how it’s trust..
we should give this a try.. are you human..? i trust you.. i know you.. et al..