maté addiction law
In short, it is a forlorn attempt to solve the problem of human pain.
Hence my mantra:
“The question is not why the addiction, but why the pain.”
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maté addiction law: in short, it is a forlorn attempt to solve the problem of human pain.. hence my mantra.. ‘the question is not why the addiction, but why the pain’ – Gabor Maté
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gabor on addiction/trauma/needs
gabor on why addicted to everything
lewis anger law: i sat with my anger long enough until she told me her real name was grief – cs lewis
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from Gabor Maté
Addiction is manifested in any behavior that a person craves, finds temporary relief or pleasure in but suffers negative consequences as a result of, and yet has difficulty giving up. In brief: craving, relief, pleasure, suffering, impaired control.[..]“I’m not going to ask you what you were addicted to,”..Only, whatever your addictive focus, what did it offer you? ..universally, the answers are: “It
helped me escape emotional pain… helped me deal with stress… gave me peace of mind… a sense of connection with others… a sense of control.”
Such answers illuminate that the
addiction is neither a choice nor a disease,
from asking google: what’s the difference between illness and disease (because so many.. ie: nic and david.. and saying it’s an illness.. and i don’t know about that.. i’m thinking.. societal illness.. yeah.. for sure that)
A “disease” has a pathological cause such as bacteria or a virus. A “disorder” has a mental, chemical, or physical cause. An illness is more generally any condition that causes one to not feel well. It includes diseases and disorders, and it can be applied to more transient maladies such as a cold.
but originates in a human being’s desperate attempt to solve a problem: the problem of emotional pain, of overwhelming stress, of lost connection, of loss of control, of a deep discomfort with the self. .
In short, it is a forlorn attempt to solve the problem of human pain.
Hence my mantra:
“The question is not why the addiction, but why the pain.”
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source of pain is always and invariably to be found in a person’s lived experience, beginning with childhood.
also from realm of hungry ghosts:
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addictions always originate in pain, whether felt openly or hidden in the unconscious.. they are emotional anesthetics.. heroin and cocaine, both powerful physical painkillers, also ease psychological discomfort..
the question is never ‘why the addiction’ but ‘why the pain’.
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and from Human Pain and Healing – Gabor Maté Interview https://t.co/yLIjF8DQU8
yet another reaffirmation of maté basic needs law.. as our infra.. to healing
22 min – and it happens because the connections weren’t there to protect you.. the attachment wasn’t there to hold you
21 min – the more exclusion people suffer.. either as individuals in childhood.. or as people.. the more likely they are going to be addicted.. but exclusion is not sufficient for that.. ie: colonized people.. doesn’t just exclude native but does everything to destroy self concept
so exclusion but also destruction of self.. that’s what leads to addiction..
gabor on addiction/trauma/needs
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i’m a/n ____ aholic.
you
need to separate.
i can be silent/distant/separated.. but not separate – thurman interconnectedness law et al
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be you. 