maté addiction law

In short, it is a forlorn attempt to solve the problem of human pain.

Hence my mantra:

“The question is not why the addiction, but why the pain.”


maté addiction law: in short, it is a forlorn attempt to solve the problem of human pain.. hence my mantra.. ‘the question is not why the addiction, but why the pain’Gabor Maté


gabor on addiction/trauma/needs

gabor on why addicted to everything

lewis anger law: i sat with my anger long enough until she told me her real name was grief – cs lewis

where does it hurt


from  Gabor Maté

beyond drugs (april 2017) – universal addiction
Addiction is manifested in any behavior that a person craves, finds temporary relief or pleasure in but suffers negative consequences as a result of, and yet has difficulty giving up. In brief: craving, relief, pleasure, suffering, impaired control.

“I’m not going to ask you what you were addicted to,”..Only, whatever your addictive focus, what did it offer you? ..universally, the answers are: “It

helped me escape emotional pain… helped me deal with stress… gave me peace of mind… a sense of connection with others… a sense of control.”

Such answers illuminate that the

addiction is neither a choice nor a disease,

from asking google: what’s the difference between illness and disease (because so many.. ie: nic and david.. and saying it’s an illness.. and i don’t know about that.. i’m thinking.. societal illness.. yeah.. for sure that)

A “disease” has a pathological cause such as bacteria or a virus. A “disorder” has a mental, chemical, or physical cause. An illness is more generally any condition that causes one to not feel well. It includes diseases and disorders, and it can be applied to more transient maladies such as a cold.

but originates in a human being’s desperate attempt to solve a problem: the problem of emotional pain, of overwhelming stress, of lost connection, of loss of control, of a deep discomfort with the self. .

In short, it is a forlorn attempt to solve the problem of human pain.

Hence my mantra:

“The question is not why the addiction, but why the pain.”


source of pain is always and invariably to be found in a person’s lived experience, beginning with childhood.

also from realm of hungry ghosts:


addictions always originate in pain, whether felt openly or hidden in the unconscious.. they are emotional anesthetics.. heroin and cocaine, both powerful physical painkillers, also ease psychological discomfort..

the question is never ‘why the addiction’ but ‘why the pain’.


and from Human Pain and Healing – Gabor Maté Interview

yet another reaffirmation of maté basic needs law.. as our infra.. to healing

22 min – and it happens because the connections weren’t there to protect you.. the attachment wasn’t there to hold you

missing piece #2

21 min – the more exclusion people suffer.. either as individuals in childhood.. or as people.. the more likely they are going to be addicted.. but exclusion is not sufficient for that..  ie: colonized people.. doesn’t just exclude native but does everything to destroy self concept

missing piece #1

so exclusion but also destruction of self.. that’s what leads to addiction..

2 missing pieces

gabor on addiction/trauma/needs


i’m a/n ____ aholic.


need to separate.

i can be silent/distant/separated.. but not separate – thurman interconnectedness law et al


sparks love-hate law

james taylor


Gabor Maté

across the board


hari addiction law

maté trump law
maté basic needs law
maté not yet scrambled law
healing (roots of) – [here Gabor talks about A H Almass as person he may quote most ..maybe person i quote most is Gabor .. since my he’s basis/insight of a nother way]
human nature
when the body says no
scattered .. add
in the realm of hungry ghosts ..  addiction
maté acting out law
gabor on democracy now
gabor on capitalism
gabor on hate
maté trauma law
almaas holes law
maté sensitivity law