almaas holes law
a hole is nothing but the absence of a certain part of our essence. .However to say we have lost parts of Essence does not mean they are gone forever; they are never gone forever.
When you’re a baby, you have no holes; you are complete when you are born. ..
from: theory of holes(go to his page for live links on many of the words..besides live linking.. i also took many parts out below)
.. When we are not aware of our essence, it stops manifesting. Then we feel a sense of deficiency. So a hole is nothing but the absence of a certain part of our essence. ..However to say we have lost parts of Essence does not mean they are gone forever; they are never gone forever. You are simply cut off from them. ie: value or self-esteem. …feel a sense of deficiency, a sense of inferiority, and you want to fill this hole with value from the outside. You may try to use approval, praise, whatever…with fake value. ..we usually aren’t aware of them (holes) . We’re usually aware of desires: “I want praise. I want to be successful. I want this person to love me. I want this or that experience.” The....presence of desires and needs indicates the presence of holes.
the holes we need to fill – to get back to our essence: 2 needs/desires
“Holes” Get Produced When You Are a Child
One more thing about the theory of holes. As I said, the holes get produced when you’re a child. When you’re a baby, you have no holes; you are complete when you are born. ..
Every time you get cut off from a part of you, a hole manifests. ..What you fill the holes with are false feelings, ideas, beliefs about yourself, and strategies for dealing with your environment.
These fillers are collectively called the personality, ..After a time, we think this is who we are. We think we are the fillers. The personality is trying to take the place of the real thing. ..We study the development of our personality until we are finally able to experience the memory of the situation in which that particular hole formed.
a nother way book: p 22 – 2 missing pieces.. to fill us back up
missing piece #1: authenticity
missing piece #2: attachment