gabor on hate
For Maté, the question is not “Why the addiction?” but “Why the pain?”
The connecting line between addiction and hate, according to Maté, is trauma. “What happened in Pittsburgh is a manifestation of trauma,” Maté told the Inquirer. “There is no mass killer who wasn’t a traumatized person.”
Just like addiction — to drugs or classic music — provides relief to people who were traumatized as children, so does hate.
Maté talks about hate in a similar fashion: “You can’t ‘just say no’ to hate.”
“You can’t fight hatred,” Maté explains. “Telling people not to hate is not fighting hatred.”
But there are solutions. The first step is recognizing the problem.
“We have to take an honest look at ourselves as a society and as a culture and say what is it about us that foments this kind of stuff,” he says.
Two major forces contribute to hate: racism and inequality.
“The research is absolutely clear,” Maté says. “The more inequality in a society, the more hate, the more dysfunction, the more mental illness, the more physical illness.” It should come as no surprise, then, that we see more addiction and more mass shootings since “the inequality is rising all the time.” Violence against racial, ethnic, or religious groups “is a manifestation of a society that foments division amongst people and sets people against each other.”
Both hate and addiction are a manifestation of a society that is ill, disconnected, and traumatized. It is an indictment of American culture and society that anyone finds relief by picking up a rifle and driving to a synagogue. To fight hate, we need to change our culture and society.
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thurman interconnectedness law: when you understand interconnectedness it makes you more afraid of hating than of dying – Robert Thurman (@BobThurman)