grief: deep sorrow, misery, sadness, anguish, pain .. 


maté addiction law – not why the addiction.. but why the pain

missing pieces

cope\ing et al


via becca fb share – also book – rage becomes her


agree w the smile stuff.. but need to go deeper than letting anger/rage ‘become her’


TIME (@TIME) tweeted at 5:30 AM – 7 Jul 2019 :
Want to stay healthy as you age? Let go of anger (


via jon on fb – The Inuit have a simple way of teaching their children how to control anger

But what if we stopped trying to manage anger and instead tried stamping it out at the womb? Can we teach our children to never know anger in the first place?

Briggs, as she recollected in her landmark 1971 book “Never in Anger,” was struck by how calm and collected everyone was — and the jarring contrast that created against her own unruly emotions.

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For the answer, Briggs looked to the children. The way they responded to difficult circumstances appeared to be something they learned from their parents. And that simple parenting technique?

Never scold.

Rather than flashing rage, she only illustrated the very real consequences of his actions: pain.

“Across the board, all the moms mention one golden rule: Don’t shout or yell at small children.”

Indeed, among the Inuit of this Arctic community, Doucleff found a people who practiced the theory that screaming at a child only teaches the child how to scream.

“And it’s a tough call for parents because it goes both ways: Problem behaviors from children create the desire to give harsh verbal discipline, but that discipline may push adolescents toward those same problem behaviors.”

“Traditional Inuit parenting is incredibly nurturing and tender,”

And what kind of children does that tender society produce?

The kind, it seems, who can live harmoniously in one of the world’s harshest climates — often with threadbare resources, where survival hinges on making the most efficient use of their natural world.

your own song ness