grief: deep sorrow, misery, sadness, anguish, pain ..
i sat w my anger long enough until she told me her real name was grief – from anger page.. linked to the mind journal
maté addiction law – not why the addiction.. but why the pain
cope\ing et al
via becca fb share – also book – rage becomes her
agree w the smile stuff.. but need to go deeper than letting anger/rage ‘become her’
TIME (@TIME) tweeted at 5:30 AM – 7 Jul 2019 :
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via jon on fb – The Inuit have a simple way of teaching their children how to control anger
But what if we stopped trying to manage anger and instead tried stamping it out at the womb? Can we teach our children to never know anger in the first place?
Briggs, as she recollected in her landmark 1971 book “Never in Anger,” was struck by how calm and collected everyone was — and the jarring contrast that created against her own unruly emotions.
For the answer, Briggs looked to the children. The way they responded to difficult circumstances appeared to be something they learned from their parents. And that simple parenting technique?
Rather than flashing rage, she only illustrated the very real consequences of his actions: pain.
“Across the board, all the moms mention one golden rule: Don’t shout or yell at small children.”
Indeed, among the Inuit of this Arctic community, Doucleff found a people who practiced the theory that screaming at a child only teaches the child how to scream.
“And it’s a tough call for parents because it goes both ways: Problem behaviors from children create the desire to give harsh verbal discipline, but that discipline may push adolescents toward those same problem behaviors.”
“Traditional Inuit parenting is incredibly nurturing and tender,”
And what kind of children does that tender society produce?
The kind, it seems, who can live harmoniously in one of the world’s harshest climates — often with threadbare resources, where survival hinges on making the most efficient use of their natural world.
your own song ness
got the book (never in anger) – thanks library – good things in it for sure.. but big turn off in beginning.. talking about how they abused dogs..
all utku beat their dogs; they saw it as a necessary disciplinary measure’ we all do it; we know it makes the dogs behave; everybody knows it’.. they beat them w boots, rocks, frozen fish, hammers, tentpoles, or anything else that came to hand, and a s the dog was usually chained or harnessed, escape was impossible. they got a good deal more than pedagogical satisfaction out of the process, too; i saw gleaming eyes and smiles of delight as dogs cowered and whined w bruises and bloody heads..
they said that a man who never lost his temper could kill if he ever did become angry.. so people told not to cross him
a happy person, on the other hand, is a safe person..i wondered whether inuttiaq (her adopted father) felt an exceptionally strong need to show himself a happy person because he was not
may add more of good insight here later .. may not..
basically.. they tried not to scold children under age 3.. rather appease whatever.. so they felt loved