we have to stop thinking we can judge other people

1\ we don’t have the ability – we can’t see enough w our heart.. into their heart.. to all the stories.. (adichie single story law)

2\ thinking we can/should messes all of us up – it creates/perpetuates an unnatural separation (thurman interconnectedness law)

we are wasting so much.. too much .. of our energy/time on judging/inspecting/validating others.. when what the world needs most is the energy of 7bn alive people..

we would best use our energy to assume good.. 100% of the time..

learn to sing to each other (your own song)

trust is 100% .. or it’s not trust.. it’s just judgement/cancer


“Trust requires an intelligent judgement.” How to be smart about who you trust: t.ted.com/IH0bdrQ

Trust requires an *intelligent judgement of trustworthiness. So those who want others’ trust have to do two things. First, they have to be trustworthy, which requires competence, honesty and reliability. Second, they have to provide **intelligible evidence that they are trustworthy, enabling others to judge intelligently where they should place or refuse their trust.

how is that trust..?.. that’s just judgement.. and *intelligent judgement to boot.. who..

and how do you provide **intelligible evidence you are trustworthy..?

i’m thinking verifiability is pretty much impossible and pretty much inhumane

imagine a world where people spend their days alive/aware/awake, because they start them by trusting each other, by deciding everyday to..

assume good.

we spend so much time/energy/money/people today doing much the opposite of that. we get so caught-up/lost in defense/policy/rights/judgement/retribution/prestige/fear.. if we abandoned all that for trust.. we’d all be very rich in time/energy/money/people..  no?

the thing about trust

unconditional trust

this no agenda – ness. this no pre-condition of trustworthiness – ness. this no earning ness of trust. that’s a hard pill for us. but its the way trust works/breeds/endures. (currency ness)

unconditional trust – an oxymoron..

we don’t need judge\ment.. we need spaces of permissionnothing to prove..

could happen via gershenfeld sel


i know you ness


hard to find/be that person(s) who can share a space w/o observing/judging ness