judge\ment

we have to stop thinking we can judge other people

1\ we don’t have the ability – we can’t see enough w our heart.. into their heart.. to all the stories.. (adichie single story law)

2\ thinking we can/should messes all of us up – it creates/perpetuates an unnatural separation (thurman interconnectedness law)

we are wasting so much.. too much .. of our energy/time on judging/inspecting/validating others.. when what the world needs most is the energy of 7bn alive people..

we would best use our energy to assume good.. 100% of the time..

learn to sing to each other (your own song)

trust is 100% .. or it’s not trust.. it’s just judgement/cancer

@TEDTalks

“Trust requires an intelligent judgement.” How to be smart about who you trust: t.ted.com/IH0bdrQ

Trust requires an *intelligent judgement of trustworthiness. So those who want others’ trust have to do two things. First, they have to be trustworthy, which requires competence, honesty and reliability. Second, they have to provide **intelligible evidence that they are trustworthy, enabling others to judge intelligently where they should place or refuse their trust.

**how is that trust..?.. that’s just judgement.. and *intelligent judgement to boot.. who..**

and how do you provide intelligible evidence you are trustworthy..?**

i’m thinking verifiability is pretty much impossible and pretty much inhumane – red flag

imagine a world where people spend their days alive/aware/awake, because they start them by trusting each other, by deciding everyday to..

we spend so much time/energy/money/people today doing much the opposite of that. we get so caught-up/lost in defense/policy/rights/judgement/retribution/prestige/fear.. if we abandoned all that for trust.. we’d all be very rich in time/energy/money/people.. no?

this no agenda – ness. this no pre-condition of trustworthiness – ness. this no earning ness of trust. that’s a hard pill for us. but its the way trust works/breeds/endures. (currency ness)

unconditional trust – an oxymoron..

we don’t need judge\ment.. we need spaces of permission w nothing to prove..

could happen via gershenfeld sel

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i know you ness

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hard to find/be that person(s) who can share a space w/o observing/judging ness

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tech w/o judgment ?

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via maria – quote from adam philips – https://www.brainpickings.org/2016/05/23/against-self-criticism-adam-phillips-unforbidden-pleasures/:

We are continually, if unconsciously, mutilating and deforming our own character. Indeed, so unrelenting is this internal violence that we have no idea what we are like without it.

whales in sea world ness

We know virtually nothing about ourselves because we judge ourselves before we have a chance to see ourselves (as though in panic). Or, to put it differently, we can judge only what we recognize ourselves as able to judge. What can’t be judged can’t be seen.

begs we let go of any form of measuring/accounting

selves and others

What happens to everything that is not subject to approval or disapproval, to everything that we have not been taught how to judge? … The judged self can only be judged but not known.

begs unconditional ness