maté basic needs (video)
authenticity vs attachment – 1 min clip from crazywise conversations (a&a) – hope it doesn’t go away:
https://twitter.com/CRAZYWISEFILM/status/1118592526498369537/video/1
notes/quotes:
when a child is first born has 2 needs..
1\ attachment: connect, belong, be loved by and love.. that’s just a basic human need
but we have another need as well
2\ authenticity: the capacity to know what you feel .. to be in touch with our bodies and to be able to express/manifest who we are in our activities/relationships.. so authenticity is another huge survival need
but *what happens to a child where the attachment need is not compatible with the need for authenticity.. in other words.. if i’m authentic.. my parents will reject me.. if i feel what i feel .. and express what i feel .. and insist on my own truth.. **my parents can’t handle it
*maté trump law et al..
**parents are the first ness.. et al.. maté not yet scrambled law et al
brown belonging law.. so that we don’t keep perpetuating khan filling the gaps law et al
need 1st/most: means (nonjudgmental expo labeling) to undo hierarchical listening – so we can hear what’s already on each heart as global detox in order to org around these two legit needs
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nothing to date has gotten to the/this root of problem
legit freedom will only happen if it’s all of us.. and in order to be all of us.. has to be sans any form of measuring, accounting, people telling other people what to do
how we gather in a space is huge.. need to try spaces of permission where people have nothing to prove to facil curiosity over decision making.. because the finite set of choices of decision making is unmooring us.. keeping us from us..
ie: imagine if we listen to the itch-in-8b-souls 1st thing everyday & use that data to connect us (tech as it could be.. ai as augmenting interconnectedness)
the thing we’ve not yet tried/seen: the unconditional part of left to own devices ness
[‘in an undisturbed ecosystem ..the individual left to its own devices.. serves the whole’ –dana meadows] – not yet scrambled ness et al
there’s a legit use of tech (nonjudgmental exponential labeling) to facil the seeming chaos of a global detox leap/dance.. for (blank)’s sake..
ie: whatever for a year.. a legit sabbatical ish transition
otherwise we’ll keep perpetuating the same song.. the whac-a-mole-ing ness of sea world.. of not-us ness.. of part\ial ness.. [again].. for (blank)’s sake..
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gabor on addiction/trauma/needs – (9 min video)
we need to org for necessities ie: a nother way
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be you. 