khan filling the gaps law

these cynical groups..step in and actively groom/provide whatever it is that our young people are lacking in their lives.. these groups try to fill those gaps

deeyah khan


can’t believe i don’t have any khan laws yet.. so much insight from her.. but this one is huge.. and so adding it this day:

Unless we address the gaps in young people’s lives – extremist groups and gangs will continue to feed off and cynically exploit them explains @Deeyah_Khan
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if we don’t have actual societal networks that provide/support people who when they are at their most vulnerable at their most broken in life.. not just extremist groups.. any violent groups.. you have these cynical groups who will step in and actively groom and provide whatever it is that our young people are lacking in their lives.. these groups try to fill those gaps.. t.. the human/emotional/psychological needs that so many young people have.. these groups are cynically filling those gaps

imagine if we.. org around legit needs.. so there are no gaps.. for any ages..

ie: a nother way


jihad (doc)

white right (doc)

et al


missing pieces.. maté basic needs.. almaas holes law.. et al

imagine if we just focused on listening to the itch-in-8b-souls.. first thing.. everyday.. and used that data to augment our interconnectedness.. we might just get to a more antifragile, healthy, thriving world.. the ecosystem we keep longing for..

what the world needs most is the energy of 8b alive people


from murray bookchin‘s ecology of freedom:


in many respects, *‘civilization’ involves a massive enterprise to undo the impact of maternal care nurture, and modes of thought on the character structure of the offspring.. the imagery of growing up has actually come to mean growing away from a maternal, domestic world of mutual support , concern and love into one made shapeless, unfeeling and harsh.. to accommodate humanity to war, exploitation, political obedience ..t.. and rule involves the undoing not only of human ‘first nature’ as and animal but also of human ‘second nature’ as a child who lives in dependency and protective custody under the eyes and in the arms of its mother.. what we so facilely call ‘maturity’ is not ordinarily an ethically desirable process of growth and humanization.. to become an ‘autonomous’ ‘perceptive’ ‘experienced’ and ‘competent’ adult involves terms that historically possess very mixed meanings.. **the child’s growth away form the values of a caring mother toward autonomy and independence becomes a cultural travesty and a psychological disaster when it results in a youth’s degrading dependency upon the caprices of an egotistical and unfeeling taskmaster.. t

huge huge huge

*jensen civilization law.. maté parenting law.. graeber parent/care law.. et al **khan filling the gaps law .. et al

maté addiction lawin short, it is a forlorn attempt to solve the problem of human pain.. hence my mantra.. ‘the question is not why the addiction, but why the pain’ – Gabor Maté

lewis anger law

where does it hurt