gabor on gut feelings et al
Gabor Mate’s Life Advice Will Leave You SPEECHLESS 2.0 – 2025 – 17 min video [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fYOvUOPyOcA&t=9s]
gabor maté on gut feelings et al
[found via youtube offerings to side on page of video from gabor on regret]
notes/quotes:
if we were connected to our gut feelings.. there’s a lot of things we wouldn’t be choosing.. lot of things we wouldn’t buy we don’t need.. the big way this society survives is by people being disconnected from their gut feelings.. an essential part of our social character is to be disconnected from ourselves.. my wish for humanity is freedom.. freedom to be ourselves
graeber stop at enough law et al over khan filling the gaps law et al
happiness is being in the present and having capacity to play
3 min – if for saking of fitting in.. we have to give up our authenticity for sake of attachment.. being inauthentic .. being out of touch w selves is how to survive.. we’re afraid of being ourselves because of fear of being rejected.. significant implications..
brown belonging law et al
4 min – quick root to disease.. ignoring self to please others
5 min – almost like we were mechanically programmed like huxley (brave new world) said.. trained to develop and fulfill roles.. the thing is to want to do what society expects you to do.. so nothing to do w true nature
socrates supposed to law et al
we have this idea that what is normal is also healthy and natural.. in this culture the norm is neither.. the norm is making us sick.. we talk about illnesses as abnormalities.. illness in this society is a normal response to a n abnormal circumstance
myth of normal et al
6 min – fist time in life you felt hurt/angry.. most people i talk to this goes way back.. that’s what trauma is.. don’t respond to present.. respond to past
gabor on childhood trauma et al
7 min – what if you assumed for a moment that you are lovable.. something in you still believes you’re not worthy.. so who believes that.. yourself..these problems are always teaching opps
8 min – all these pressures not to be yourself.. to fit in.. so you get sick.. so how do you get back to self? good news.. self you abandoned.. never went away.. and it’s talking to you thru your body..
when body says no.. et al
9 min – when i was a child .. i had to go with the attachment.. so yes.. if i am authentic.. may lose attachment… you have a decision to make.. authenticity or attachment.. your addiction wasn’t your problem.. it was your attempt to solve the problem.. not why the addiction.. why the pain
10 min – conflict between attachment and authenticity.. attachment will win every time.. if not loved for who you are.. you’ll work very hard to be liked.. never diappoint anybody.. but nobody will know you
11 min – attachment in early years is long.. can’t survive w/o it.. another need.. is to be authentic.. it’s feeling your gut feelings.. it’s absolutely essential..
12 min – the part that is convinced is the part that was hurt so bad in childhood
13 min – how i took care of kids wasn’t always best.. but best i could do at the time.. so it’s not about dwelling on past.. it’s about learning.. regret values past more than present.. accusing of stuff you had no consciousness of knowing of..
14 min – it’s not disloyal to suffering in world if i let myself be happy
15 min – so addiction is a sin, a bad choice, a disease..? it’s none of that.. it’s creating relief short term.. consequences long term.. w inability to give it up.. that’s my defn of addiction
the pushing down of anger can lead to disease
at the heart of all addiction is this tremendous shame.. really ashamed of selves.. and it’s a barrier to self knowledge.. nobody should be ashamed of one self.. there’s a distinction of being ashamed of what you do.. rather than who you are
17 min – addicts get a temp sense of peace, calmness.. and question is.. why are these missing from their lives.. these drugs..et al.. are all pain killers
again.. khan filling the gaps law
nothing we’ve tried to date has gotten to this root of problem (attachment & authenticity – aka: how to be free)
legit freedom will only happen if it’s all of us.. and in order to be all of us.. has to be sans any form of measuring, accounting, people telling other people what to do
how we gather in a space is huge.. need to try spaces of permission where people have nothing to prove to facil curiosity over decision making.. because the finite set of choices of decision making is unmooring us.. keeping us from us..
ie: imagine if we listen to the itch-in-8b-souls 1st thing everyday & use that data to connect us (tech as it could be.. ai as augmenting interconnectedness)
the thing we’ve not yet tried/seen: the unconditional part of left to own devices ness
[‘in an undisturbed ecosystem ..the individual left to its own devices.. serves the whole’ –dana meadows]
there’s a legit use of tech (nonjudgmental exponential labeling) to facil the seeming chaos of a global detox leap/dance.. the unconditional part of left-to-own-devices ness.. for (blank)’s sake.. and we’re missing it
ie: whatever for a year.. a legit sabbatical ish transition
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