gabor on depression
via tweet [https://x.com/newstart_2024/status/2010123596274819516?s=20]:
Dr. Gabor Maté’s 35-second gut punch on depression: “Depression comes from having to push down your emotions… to stay connected to your parents.” It’s not a disease — it’s a coping mechanism from childhood. A child shouldn’t have to choose between feeling their feelings and keeping their parent’s love. Indigenous cultures carry kids everywhere. Modern society? We force emotional suppression early… and wonder why depression explodes later. 35-sec clip — raw, uncomfortable truth
notes/quotes from 35 sec clip:
depression comes from having to push down your emotions.. but why did you have to push down your emotions.. to stay connected to your parents.. in other words.. it was a coping mechanism.. and what i’m saying is that a lot of illness.. whether of the mind or the body or both comes from coping mechanisms
cope\ing ness.. from the supposed to’s of school/work et al.. that separate us..
holmgren indigenous law et al..
attachment.. maté trump law.. brown belonging law..
there are normal coping mechanisms in response to an abnormal situation.. it’s not normal for a child to be banished from the presence of the parent.. if you look at indigenous people.. they carry their kids everywhere.. the kids are always with the parents
aka: not an undisturbed ecosystem.. rather .. a disturbed one.. a sea world one.. hari rat park law et al..
parents are the first ness et al
need global detox leap .. to get back/to living by gut/itch-in-the-soul ness.. back/to the dance
ie: need means (nonjudgmental expo labeling) to undo hierarchical listening as global detox so we can org around legit needs [aka: maté basic needs]
nothing to date has gotten to the root of problem
legit freedom will only happen if it’s all of us.. and in order to be all of us.. has to be sans any form of measuring, accounting, people telling other people what to do
so we can get back/to missing pieces
how we gather in a space is huge.. need to try spaces of permission where people have nothing to prove to facil curiosity over decision making.. because the finite set of choices of decision making is unmooring us.. keeping us from us..
ie: imagine if we listen to the itch-in-8b-souls 1st thing everyday & use that data to connect us (tech as it could be.. ai as augmenting interconnectedness)
the thing we’ve not yet tried/seen: the unconditional part of left to own devices ness
[‘in an undisturbed ecosystem ..the individual left to its own devices.. serves the whole’ –dana meadows]
there’s a legit use of tech (nonjudgmental exponential labeling) to facil the seeming chaos of a global detox leap/dance.. for (blank)’s sake..
ie: whatever for a year.. a legit sabbatical ish transition
otherwise we’ll keep perpetuating the same song.. the whac-a-mole-ing ness of sea world.. of not-us ness.. of part\ial ness.. [again].. for (blank)’s sake..
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be you. 