gabor on regret

gabor maté on regret via tweet in thread [https://x.com/GBarsawme/status/1922275565257572804]

BIGGEST REGRET of An 80-Year-Old. (2025) 1 min video [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K0yqlInedZM]

notes/quotes:

if i were to choose to live life over again.. i wouldn’t live it in this way..

the end of the book (winnie the pooh) would bring tears to my eyes for years.. christopher robin has to go to school and he’s telling his friends.. the toy animals.. that he won’t be able to play with them so much anymore..

and what i wasn’t aware of when i went to med school and when i was a physician is how driven i was to justify my existence in the world.. i wish i hadn’t worked so hard.. when you’re driven to work too hard.. you actually ignore what matters..t

and what matters is.. like you were telling me last night.. you take a bunch of weeks away from your podcast and you just spend time enjoying your kids and your wife and your family.. i didn’t do that.. i always felt i had to keep working

and the book ends with the statement.. and whatever they do.. wherever they go.. in the enchanted forest.. a little boy and his bear will always be playing together.. and that phrase would bring tears to my eyes for years

people sacrifice their playfulness.. their joyfulness.. being driven by unconscious needs to validate your existence.. then where does that come from.. that comes from childhood trauma.. t

from 2 missing pieces.. khan filling the gaps law et al

play is so important.. and joy is so important.. in that sense.. we can always keep playing in the enchanted forest .. and that’s just essential i think

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