tim urban

tim urban

intro’d to Tim a while back via – rabbit holing into – his wait but why site (i was rabbit holing elon and energy)..

revisiting him here – ted 2-16 – Inside the mind of a master procrastinator:

instant gratification monkey is not someone you would want behind the wheel.. he only thinks about easy and fun.. in the animal world.. that works find…

rational decision maker – wants you doing things that makes sense

the dark playground – completely unearned..

procrastinator’s gardian angel – the panic monster… the only thing the monkey is terrified of

it’s always been a dream of mine to have done a ted talk.. in the past

how was i not able to work on paper.. but then able to stay up all night

2 kinds of procrastination.. 1\ deadlines.. panic monster gets involved  2\ no deadline.. ie: arts, etc, .. no deadlines at first anyway.. no panic monster.. so prolonged procrastination…

that’s why these people are in such a bad place.. long term procrastination has made them feel like a spectator in their own lives..

i don’t think non procrastinators exist.. some have healthy relationship w/deadlines..

life calendar – we need to think about what we’re really procrastinating on

perhaps we look deeper at procrastination.. (ie: the it is me ness) ..

perhaps we redefine/re evaluate what procrastinating is. imagine if it’s simply – following whimsy. imagine if following our whimsy, listening for/to entropy,..as the day  – was better for us and the entire world. imagine if that’s where our ongoing energy comes from.

disengaging from supposed to’s .. et al.


find/follow Tim:

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wait but why site (swim there if you dare. dare.):


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Wait But Why (WBW) is a site founded by Tim Urban and Andrew Finn and written and illustrated by Tim Urban. The site covers a range of subjects as a long-form blog. Content has been syndicated on The Huffington Post, Lifehacker, as well as being referenced on other sites.

In June 2015 Urban landed an exclusive set of interviews with Elon Musk after Musk reached out and asked Urban if he’d be open to writing about his companies and their surrounding industries. In the interviews, Urban and Musk discussed the importance of sustainable transportsolar energy and the future of space exploration.


how to pick life partner part 1



marriage\ing decision –


Society, in most parts of the world, doesn’t like when a relationship lasts too long. To society, a relationship is simply a testing ground—an incubator that prepares you for The Decision. And if too many years go by in a relationship without The Decision being made, society decides that something must be wrong. To help right the wrong, society will begin to apply pressure on the couple, from all angles.

voluntary compliance ness

Some people are bigger than society. Most of us are not. For most of us, society’s rules are our rules, and as you and your person walk down your blue balance beam, you can feel the walking space melt away around you. It’s time to make The Decision.

Your relationship needs to be converted into Everything Forever or Nothing Ever Again. Soon.

The typical human isn’t really equipped to make The Decision. We evolved to live short lives, during which life-altering 60-year commitments weren’t a thing. We evolved in small communities without nearly as many available options. And most of us, when presented with The Decision, have relatively little relationship experience and an incomplete understanding of our own adult selves—selves that in many cases only recently started existing.

But society doesn’t care. So you decide.


the story of us series

ch 0 – intro – [https://waitbutwhy.com/2019/08/story-intro.html]

It hit me that what I really needed to write about was that—about why it’s perilous to write about society.

I knew this would be a deep rabbit hole. Did I think I’d follow some sick-ass rabbit down a hole for three years, deep into U.S. history, world history, evolutionary psychology, political theory, and neuroscience, through dozens of books, hundreds of datasets and articles, and into literally thousands of conversations, some very pleasant and some that made me want to pull my head off and throw it into the trash? No I didn’t.

I ended up going so deep because as I read through studies and watched the news and read opinion pieces and listened to podcasts and heard people’s life stories, I kept feeling like in each case, I was only seeing a small part of what was happening. And I became obsessed with trying to wrap my head around whatever the big story was that all of these smaller stories were a part of. So I went farther and farther down the rabbit hole, trying to get in a mental helicopter and zoom out far enough to see the complete picture.

quiet enough to hear/see.. the deep enough ness

part of what I’ve spent three years working on is a new language we can use to think and talk about our societies and the people inside of them

ch 1 – the great battle of fire and light – [https://waitbutwhy.com/2019/08/fire-light.html]

Life on Earth is a long succession of temporary animal containers passing genes along to newer containers like a baton in an endless relay. It’s an odd survival system, but so far, it’s worked pretty well—at least for those genes still around.

But the real power of imagination came when it was combined with communication. Humans now had the power to communicate with each other using a complex language full of sounds that represent things or ideas—human language is humans imagining together. Communication plus imagination is why humans can think in the big picture and make long-term plans in a way no other animal can.

Reason and imagination, combined together, lead to something even more incredible. ..These two superpowers produced a third superpower—one that, above all, makes humans human: empathy.

Not only could this mind within a mind think its own thoughts, it could actually overrule the will of the genes, override the software’s commands, and drive human behavior.

Let’s call our ancient animal software, which is still very much in our heads—our Primitive Mind. And let’s call this highly advanced, independent new consciousness our Higher Mind.

The human, with smoke obscuring its self-awareness, doesn’t realize its mind has been switched over to software automation, leaving the Higher Mind pretty helpless to take back the controls. This is when humans start trouble, for themselves and for others.

The never-ending struggle between these two minds is the human condition. It’s the backdrop of everything that has ever happened in the human world, and everything that happens today. It’s the story of our times because it’s the story of all human times.

whales in sea world.. via the supposed to’s.. of school/work

part 2 – the value games


“We need a government, alas, because of the nature of humans.” – P.J. O’Rourke..t

alas.. because of the nature of whales in sea world.. not the nature of humans

ch 4 – the enlightenment kids

The American forefathers were coming of age right in the middle of all of this, and they decided to take action. They had bigger ambitions than overthrowing their king—they wanted to overthrow the concept of a king.

One of the worst parts about living in the Power Games was the lack of freedom. Most people lived their lives at the whim of someone else’s cudgel. But that’s actually a symptom of the real problem with the Power Games: too much freedom.

In the Power Games, everyone actually starts off with unlimited freedom.

we have no idea.. no one has ever experienced unlimited.. unconditional freedom

Without any principles in charge, the Power Games are a simple contest of who can be the biggest bully.

nah.. we just need diff infra..

or.. yeah.. let’s try this as principles: 2 convers as infra

either way.. it’s about the infra.. not human nature and freedom

But the coolest free market in the Value Games wouldn’t be economic or political, it would be the game of ideas—the game that would give the U.S. giant a brain.

yeah.. beyond getting a brain/ideas.. rather a game/aliveness of cure ios city..

ch 5 – the mute button


In theory, with enough communication, an entire country with millions of people could become a colossal national brain

actually.. it needs to be the whole world.. or it won’t work.. and the communication: 2 convers via idio-jargon

The Thought Pile is a visual representation of how the country feels about Topic X.

wrong focus.. today we have the means to gather around 7b daily curiosities.. leaving the energy of 7b alive people intact.. which is what we need for an undisturbed ecosystem to work/dance

When a person is being authentic and saying what they really think, the Inner Self and Outer Self are standing in the same spot on the idea spectrum.

fittingness goes deeper.. ie: rather than asking what people think about things.. asking what they are curious/thinking about .. huge difference.. huge

Sure, people socialize in multiple circles, so ideas born in small group discussions can travel into other small group discussions—but to think as one big brain, the Hypotheticans need to be able to have more system-wide, coordinated thought.

This is where mass broadcast comes in.

the new thing.. the thing we can now do.. that we’ve not yet ever done.. ie: tech as it could be.. not about broadcasting .. about listening..

We can represent these platforms with a megaphone. The color of the megaphone represents the viewpoint being expressed through it. And the bigger the megaphone, the bigger the listening audience

not that kind of listening..

Now of all the ideas out there, which ones end up with megaphone distribution?

so you’re back to hier archy ness – (same song 2nd verse english accent .. little bit worse)

Wherever there’s an authoritarian situation going on—governmental or cultural—a mute button will be part of the story.. t

begs the new thing.. the thing we can now do.. that we’ve not yet ever done.. ie: tech as it could be.. listening to every voice everyday..

ch 10 – a sick giant


At the heart of the lens is the notion of “seeing in 3D,” which involves two ideas:

1) Seeing in 2D. Getting to know what I see as the core human struggle: the tension between our genes’ will to survive—a primal flame that burns brightly in everyone—and the human capacity to override that flame when it makes sense to do so, with rationality, self-awareness, and wisdom. I personify this tension with two characters—the Primitive Mind and the Higher Mind—whose struggle for control is a bit like a tug-of-war. Seeing in 2D means learning to consider this tug-of-war when thinking about anything human: ourselves and others, our interactions, our communities and societies and our politics, our personal and collective histories, and our prospects for the future.

2) Seeing in 3D. Remembering to remember not only the Psych Spectrum tug-of-war but also Emergence Tower. Ants are cells in a giant colony “organism.” Polar bears are individual organisms in themselves. Humans are weird because we can be like ants sometimes and polar bears other timesmaking the human species kind of like a fractal. The individual human is an organism, but in many ways so is a human community, and even a whole society. The reason I see humanity like a fractal is that these different-order organisms are similar in a lot of ways. Namely, I see them as all enduring the same 2D struggle. I freely alternate between psychology and sociology in this series, because in 3D, it’s all one big multi-tiered system. Psychology is just a microcosm of sociology. And sociology is higher-emergence psychology—it’s the psychology of giants.

Putting the two ideas together, it’s as if the tug-of-war is itself a fractal that scales up and down. There’s a tug-of-war in every human’s head, as we struggle for self-control and try our best to think and behave wisely. That same tug-of-war takes place on a macro scale in large and small groups of humans. When couples, communities, and societies let control of the rope slip towards the Primitive Mind, they end up playing out an ancient pre-programmed skit, falling into what I call the Power Games—the most primitive format of human interaction, where the only rule is: “Everyone can do whatever they want, if they have the power to pull it off.” When their collective Higher Minds regain an edge, they’re able to live within a wiser and more grown-up structure made up of consciously chosen principles. Tug-of-war shifts are also contagious. The state of each person’s tug-of-war influences both the psychology of the people around them and the collective tug-of-war of groups the person is a part of. In turn, shifts in a society’s collective mindset exert a pull on the communities and individuals within it.

why getting back/to fittingness matters.. and.. there is a way..