gaslighting

gaslight

so.. like voluntary compliance.. really..

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Gaslighting or gas-lighting is a form of psychological abuse in which a victim is manipulated into doubting their own memory, perception, and sanity. Instances may range from the denial by an abuser that previous abusive incidents ever occurred up to the staging of bizarre events by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim.

The term owes its origin to the 1938 play Gas Light and has been used in clinical and research literature.

Etymology

The 1938 stage play Gas Light, known as Angel Street in the United States, and the film adaptations released in 1940 and 1944 motivated the origin of the term because of the systematic psychological manipulation used by the main character on a victim. The plot concerns a husband who attempts to convince his wife and others that she is insane by manipulating small elements of their environment, and subsequently insisting that she is mistaken, remembering things incorrectly, or delusional when she points out these changes. The original title stems from the dimming of the gas lights in the house that happened when the husband was using the gas lights in the attic while searching for hidden treasure. The wife accurately notices the dimming lights and discusses the phenomenon, but the husband insists she just imagined a change in the level of illumination.

The term “gaslighting” has been used colloquially since the 1960s to describe efforts to manipulate someone’s sense of reality. In a 1980 book on child sexual abuse, Florence Rush summarized George Cukor’s 1944 film version of Gas Light, and writes, “even today the word [gaslighting] is used to describe an attempt to destroy another’s perception of reality.”

Clinical examples

Sociopaths and narcissists frequently use gaslighting tactics. Sociopaths consistently transgress social mores, break laws, and exploit others, but typically are also convincing liars, sometimes charming ones, who consistently deny wrongdoing. Thus, some who have been victimized by sociopaths may doubt their perceptions.

Some physically abusive spouses may gaslight their partners by flatly denying that they have been violent.

Gaslighting may occur in parent–child relationships, with either parent, child, or both, lying to each other and attempting to undermine perceptions.

Gaslighting describes a dynamic observed in some cases of marital infidelity: “Therapists may contribute to the victim’s distress through mislabeling the woman’s reactions. […] The gaslighting behaviors of the spouse provide a recipe for the so-called ‘nervous breakdown’ for some women [and] suicide in some of the worst situations.”

Psychotherapy and psychiatry are thought, by many, to be forms of gaslighting wherein the therapist or psychiatrist is characterized, by the patient, to be of a more sound, all-knowing mind (i.e. an expert). This can potentially create a conflict where the patient is unable to trust their immediate sense of their feelings and surroundings in favor of the interpretations offered by the therapist. Those interpretations will often come in the form of doubt or skepticism at the patient’s appraisals and perceptions of their world. Furthermore, gaslighting has been observed between patients and staff in inpatient psychiatric facilities.

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Resisting

With respect to women in particular, Hilde Lindemann argued emphatically that in such cases, the victim’s ability to resist the manipulation depends on “her ability to trust her own judgments“. Establishment of “counterstories” may help the victim reacquire “ordinary levels of free agency.”

ie: maté trump law.. so..let’s try.. self-talk as data

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article on gaslighting

http://iheartintelligence.com/2016/04/27/mental-manipulation/

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article from june 2017

TIME (@TIME) tweeted at 5:15 AM – 25 Aug 2018 :
How gaslighting affects your mental health https://t.co/9F6eguapBk (http://twitter.com/TIME/status/1033311792548769793?s=17)

Once in a while, it’s normal to have a fleeting moment where you question your own sanity, like when you’re severely sleep deprived or stressed out. But if a relationship leaves you constantly second-guessing your own instincts and feelings, you may be a victim of a sophisticated form of emotional abuse: gaslighting. Like other types of abuse, gaslighting can happen in all sorts of relationships, including personal, romantic, and professional.

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The gaslighting of compulsory school is really getting to me today.
Like, we’re gonna keep you in this room without your consent, and punish you if you try to leave, and tell you to be quiet so we can teach you about freedom.
Yeah, right.
(https://twitter.com/cblack__/status/1036720432517246976?s=03)

Carol Black (@cblack__) tweeted at 3:08 PM on Mon, Sep 03, 2018:
One of the worst aspects of this is the attempt to confuse or disorient students about what freedom actually is.
Fortunately, most students don’t fall for it. Most are pretty clear about it.
But the ones who are most deeply confused are often the ones who become teachers.
(https://twitter.com/cblack__/status/1036722638872240128?s=03)

krishnamurti free will law

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michel fb share – prepare for the ultimate gaslighting (9 min read): [https://forge.medium.com/prepare-for-the-ultimate-gaslighting-6a8ce3f0a0e0]

and via twitter:

Prepare for the Ultimate Gaslighting* – Forge https://t.co/a4pl9TdA7E

this is a really good, well written text about what’s coming after Corona: the biggest PR campaign ever conceived

Original Tweet: https://twitter.com/mbauwens/status/1249271143812521989

on opp we have to (virus) leap.. et al

article by Julio Vincent Gambuto

you are not crazy my friends

*Gaslighting, if you don’t know the word, is defined as manipulation into doubting your own sanity; as in, Carl made Mary think she was crazy, even though she clearly caught him cheating. He gaslit her

gaslighting

Pretty soon, as the country begins to figure out how we “open back up” and move forward, very powerful forces will try to convince us all to get back to normal. (That never happened. What are you talking about?) Billions of dollars will be spent on advertising, messaging, and television and media content to make you feel comfortable again..t

The need for comfort will be real, and it will be strong. And every brand in America will come to your rescue, dear consumer, to help take away that darkness and get life back to the way it was before the crisis. I urge you to be well aware of what is coming.

For the last hundred years, the multibillion-dollar advertising business has operated based on this cardinal principle: Find the consumer’s problem and fix it with your product. . brilliant marketers know how to rewire your heart. And, make no mistake, the heart is what has been most traumatized this last month. We are, as a society, now vulnerable in a whole new way..t

let’s take this opp to listen for a deeper/deepest problem.. that we all resonate with today

What the trauma has shown us, though, cannot be unseen. A carless Los Angeles has clear blue skies as pollution has simply stopped.. et al.. a health care system that cannot provide ..not have enough cash to pay their rent ..don’t know who to listen to for basic facts that can save their lives.

what we need to listen to.. 8b hearts.. everyday.. first thing

because what we need most is the energy of 8b alive people

we have the means to do that.. to get us back/to an undisturbed ecosystem.. ie: tech as it could be..

The cat is out of the bag. We, as a nation, have deeply disturbing problems. You’re right. That’s not news. They are problems we ignore every day, not because we’re terrible people or because we don’t care about fixing them, but because we don’t have time. Sorry, we have other shit to do. The plain truth is that no matter our ethnicity, religion, gender, political party (the list goes on), nor even our socioeconomic status, as Americans we share this: We are busy. We’re out and about hustling to make our own lives work..t

kierkegaard busy ness law

The greatest misconception among us, which causes deep and painful social and political tension every day in this country, is that we somehow don’t care about each other…don’t care about the environment. These couldn’t be further from the truth. We do care. We just don’t have the time to do anything about it..t

Well, the treadmill you’ve been on for decades just stopped. Bam! And that feeling you have right now is the same as if you’d been thrown off your Peloton bike and onto the ground: What in the holy fuck just happened? I hope you might consider this: What happened is inexplicably incredible. It’s the greatest gift ever unwrapped. Not the deaths, not the virus, but The Great Pause. ..the crisis has given us is a once-in-a-lifetime chance to see ourselves and our country in the plainest of views. At no other time, ever in our lives, have we gotten the opportunity to see what would happen if the world simply stopped. Here it is. We’re in it. ..And that feels weird. Really weird. Because it has… never… happened… before. If we want to create a better country and a better world for our kids, and if we want to make sure we are even sustainable as a nation and as a democracy, we have to pay attention to how we feel right now..t..  I cannot speak for you, but I imagine you feel like I do: devastated, depressed, and heartbroken.

And what a perfect time for Best Buy and H&M and Wal-Mart to help me feel normal again. If I could just have the new iPhone in my hand, if I could rest my feet on a pillow of new Nikes, if I could drink a venti blonde vanilla latte or sip a Diet Coke, then this very dark feeling would go away.

And so the onslaught is coming. Get ready, my friends. What is about to be unleashed on American society will be the greatest campaign ever created to get you to feel normal again..t

manufacturing consent et al

And on top of that, just to turn the screw that much more, will be the one effort that’s even greater: the all-out blitz to make you believe you never saw what you saw..t

But you did. You are not crazy, my friends. And so we are about to be gaslit in a truly unprecedented way..t It starts with a check for $1,200 (Don’t say I never gave you anything) and then it will be so big that it will be bigly. . Business and government are about to band together to knock us unconscious again. It will be funded like no other operation in our lifetimes. It will be fast. It will be furious. And it will be overwhelming. The Great American Return to Normal is coming.

This is our chance to define a new version of normal, a rare and truly sacred (yes, sacred) opportunity to get rid of the bullshit and to only bring back what works for us, what makes our lives richer, what makes our kids happier, what makes us truly proud. ..This is our chance to do that, the biggest one we have ever gotten. And the best one we’ll ever get..t

ie: cure ios city

in undisturbed ecosystems..the average individual, species, or population, left to its own devices, behaves in ways that serve and stabilize the whole..’ –Dana Meadows

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