so.. like voluntary compliance.. really..
Gaslighting or gas-lighting is a form of psychological abuse in which a victim is manipulated into doubting their own memory, perception, and sanity. Instances may range from the denial by an abuser that previous abusive incidents ever occurred up to the staging of bizarre events by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim.
The term owes its origin to the 1938 play Gas Light and has been used in clinical and research literature.
The 1938 stage play Gas Light, known as Angel Street in the United States, and the film adaptations released in 1940 and 1944 motivated the origin of the term because of the systematic psychological manipulation used by the main character on a victim. The plot concerns a husband who attempts to convince his wife and others that she is insane by manipulating small elements of their environment, and subsequently insisting that she is mistaken, remembering things incorrectly, or delusional when she points out these changes. The original title stems from the dimming of the gas lights in the house that happened when the husband was using the gas lights in the attic while searching for hidden treasure. The wife accurately notices the dimming lights and discusses the phenomenon, but the husband insists she just imagined a change in the level of illumination.
The term “gaslighting” has been used colloquially since the 1960s to describe efforts to manipulate someone’s sense of reality. In a 1980 book on child sexual abuse, Florence Rush summarized George Cukor’s 1944 film version of Gas Light, and writes, “even today the word [gaslighting] is used to describe an attempt to destroy another’s perception of reality.”
Sociopaths and narcissists frequently use gaslighting tactics. Sociopaths consistently transgress social mores, break laws, and exploit others, but typically are also convincing liars, sometimes charming ones, who consistently deny wrongdoing. Thus, some who have been victimized by sociopaths may doubt their perceptions.
Some physically abusive spouses may gaslight their partners by flatly denying that they have been violent.
Gaslighting may occur in parent–child relationships, with either parent, child, or both, lying to each other and attempting to undermine perceptions.
Gaslighting describes a dynamic observed in some cases of marital infidelity: “Therapists may contribute to the victim’s distress through mislabeling the woman’s reactions. […] The gaslighting behaviors of the spouse provide a recipe for the so-called ‘nervous breakdown’ for some women [and] suicide in some of the worst situations.”
Psychotherapy and psychiatry are thought, by many, to be forms of gaslighting wherein the therapist or psychiatrist is characterized, by the patient, to be of a more sound, all-knowing mind (i.e. an expert). This can potentially create a conflict where the patient is unable to trust their immediate sense of their feelings and surroundings in favor of the interpretations offered by the therapist. Those interpretations will often come in the form of doubt or skepticism at the patient’s appraisals and perceptions of their world. Furthermore, gaslighting has been observed between patients and staff in inpatient psychiatric facilities.
With respect to women in particular, Hilde Lindemann argued emphatically that in such cases, the victim’s ability to resist the manipulation depends on “her ability to trust her own judgments“. Establishment of “counterstories” may help the victim reacquire “ordinary levels of free agency.”
article on gaslighting
article from june 2017
TIME (@TIME) tweeted at 5:15 AM – 25 Aug 2018 :
How gaslighting affects your mental health https://t.co/9F6eguapBk (http://twitter.com/TIME/status/1033311792548769793?s=17)
Once in a while, it’s normal to have a fleeting moment where you question your own sanity, like when you’re severely sleep deprived or stressed out. But if a relationship leaves you constantly second-guessing your own instincts and feelings, you may be a victim of a sophisticated form of emotional abuse: gaslighting. Like other types of abuse, gaslighting can happen in all sorts of relationships, including personal, romantic, and professional.
The gaslighting of compulsory school is really getting to me today.
Like, we’re gonna keep you in this room without your consent, and punish you if you try to leave, and tell you to be quiet so we can teach you about freedom.
Carol Black (@cblack__) tweeted at 3:08 PM on Mon, Sep 03, 2018:
One of the worst aspects of this is the attempt to confuse or disorient students about what freedom actually is.
Fortunately, most students don’t fall for it. Most are pretty clear about it.
But the ones who are most deeply confused are often the ones who become teachers.