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bully

start gathering here..? too much..

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Bullying is the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively dominate others. The behavior is often repeated and habitual. One essential prerequisite is the perception, by the bully or by others, of an imbalance of social or physical power. Behaviors used to assert such domination can include verbal harassment or threat, physical assault or coercion, and such acts may be directed repeatedly towards particular targets. Justifications and rationalizations for such behavior sometimes include differences of social class, race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, appearance, behavior, body language, personality, reputation, lineage, strength, size or ability. If bullying is done by a group, it is called mobbing. “Targets” of bullying are also sometimes referred to as “victims” of bullying.

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to this day project quote

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shane koyczan

danah boyd

zak ebrahim

brett veinotte

ryan & amber

josh

josh ovalle

caine smith

dena simmons

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http://thegrio.com/2014/09/17/middle-school-student-commits-suicide-at-school/

http://www.eonline.com/news/580721/texas-homecoming-queen-gives-bullied-classmate-her-crown-see-the-sweet-moment

 http://www.salon.com/2014/09/18/editor_faculty_advisor_suspended_for_refusing_to_print_redskin_in_school_paper/

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Owen Suskind

nice/touching 45 min recap via Ron, Cornelia, Walt & Owen on radiolab sept 2014 – embedded with a well-rounded gathering of experts/insight:

http://www.radiolab.org/story/juicervose/

24 min from experts – (including Temple Grandin): repetition of human action – with music to bind emotions to feelings, using movie as scaffold to make sense of complexity of life (Simon

26 min – Ron – instead of telling them what they need to know – follow their passion

28 min – expert – you can’t generalize. not the norm – so have a happy ending. (did review on Ron’s book)

30 min – people seem to believe that it’s dangerous for parents to have too much hope. we’re more concerned about false pessimism. – 900 hrs till he gave us eye contact – of rocking with him. – http://www.autismtreatmentcenter.org/

33 min – some say suicide rate in this area is so high because people get the feeling if they don’t have success stories – they aren’t trying hard enough

37 min – Owen takes a turn – 10th grade. moving into a bad place. he had been bullied – will burn your house down if you tell. so thought – i could tell Walt – but then i knew Walt would beat them up. and in disney – no heroes kill villains.

41 min – moving to life – living independently for ever

43 min – mogli to the man village – you stay with him on the path even if it’s a never ending path

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you cannot oppress

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He wasn’t really telling Sandra to get out the car. He was talking to Travis who wouldn’t stop taking his lunch

money in 8th grade.

Original Tweet: https://twitter.com/WyzeChef/status/623660133411897344

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finally my (David Graeber) bully piece – this took a LOT out of me, somehow, when I wrote it a couple months ago. Left me depressed.

the bully‘s pulpit

http://thebaffler.com/salvos/bullys-pulpit

There is a tradition of thought—the Lord of the Flies tradition, we might call it—that interprets schoolyard bullies as a modern incarnation of the ancestral “killer ape,” the primordial alpha male who instantly restores the law of the jungle once no longer restrained by rational adult male authority. But this is clearly false. In fact, books like Lord of the Flies are better read as meditations on the kind of calculated techniques of terror and intimidation that British public schools employed to shape upper-class children into officials capable of running an empire. These techniques did not emerge in the absence of authority; they were techniques designed to create a certain sort of cold-blooded, calculating adult male authority to begin with.

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Bullying is more like a refraction of its authority. To begin with an obvious point: children in school can’t leave. Normally, a child’s first instinct upon being tormented or humiliated by someone much larger is to go someplace else. Schoolchildren, however, don’t have that option. If they try persistently to flee to safety, the authorities will bring them back. This is one reason, I suspect, for the stereotype of the bully as teacher’s pet or hall monitor: even when it’s not true, it draws on the tacit knowledge that the bully does depend on the authority of the institution in at least that one way—the school is, effectively, holding the victims in place while their tormentors hit them.

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Very little of this focus on the role of institutional authority is reflected in the psychological literature on bullying, which, being largely written for school authorities, assumes that their role is entirely benign.

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It’s also possible that audiences of grade schoolers react passively to bullying because they have caught on to how adult authority operates and mistakenly assume the same logic applies to interactions with their peers. If it is, say, a police officer who is pushing around some hapless adult, then yes, it is absolutely true that intervening is likely to land you in serious trouble—quite possibly, at the wrong end of a club. And we all know what happens to “whistleblowers.” (Remember Secretary of State John Kerry calling on Edward Snowden to “man up” and submit himself to a lifetime of sadistic bullying at the hands of the U.S. criminal justice system? What is an innocent child supposed to make of this?) The fates of the Mannings or Snowdens of the world are high-profile advertisements for a cardinal principle of American culture: while abusing authority may be bad, openly pointing out that someone is abusing authority is much worse—and merits the severest punishment.

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@Upworthy

This anti-bullying PSA acts out online comments in real life. It’s an uncomfortable watch. u.pw/2y4iGHT

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burger king psas

Burger King just released one of the best anti-bullying PSAs I’ve ever seen https://t.co/0RV1JUvBd2

Original Tweet: https://twitter.com/JustJOSH_ingYa/status/920841882162417664

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from doc – children full of life

12 min – mr k: if you pick on someone you’re not being a friend..

so.. would there be bullying if they weren’t in sea world..? bullying over test scores .. no?

bullying et al

think about friends.. they’re in your heart.. why would you pick on them

because we’re not truly free.. so not truly ourselves.. ie: we’re in in sea world.. as incredible as this focus is (happy life).. it’s still enmeshed in an ecosystem based on supposed to’s.. ie: of school/work

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David Graeber (@davidgraeber) tweeted at 4:54 AM on Sun, Feb 09, 2020:
this is how I came to learn that oppression (racism, sexism, class) usually works on a logic of bullying: constant provocation designed to elicit a response that can then be condemned as proof of the victim’s base nature, & retroactive justification. Seeing it happen over & over
(https://twitter.com/davidgraeber/status/1226474330999132166?s=03)

David Graeber (@davidgraeber) tweeted at 5:19 AM on Sun, Feb 09, 2020:
anyway the point was, for liberals, it’s all about form over content. But embedded in this is a logic of bullying, you know for those below you, content is what matters, & you take advantage of that, to try to goad them into breaking formal rules they might not even know  12/
(https://twitter.com/davidgraeber/status/1226480699332603905?s=03)

lit & num as colonialism/enclosure/control

aka: bullying

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