maté attachment law
the most fundamental, rudimentary, basic way of attaching is still the physical touch – Gabor Maté
36 min – from 200 000 yrs ago.. until about 10-12 000 yrs ago.. we lived in small band h & g groups.. we wandered in the outdoors in a purposeful fashion w a small group of people that we were absolutely connected to and all children parented by all adults.. everybody in relationship w everybody else.. and physical touch was a big part of it ..so.. we’re wired to attach and the mech of attachment include: physical touch.. for babies that’s only thing available; as we grow up other ways: be important to each other; copy each other; share intimate feelings w each other; hold image in heart even if don’t see them for a long time..
37 min – but the most fundamental, rudimentary, basic way of attaching is still the physical touch ..
so we’re missing that in a big way now.. esp hard for people living alone.. who can’t go out and hug friends.. et al
38 min – this is really an opp for us to get in touch w our humanity.. most of the time we can escape from our vulnerability..t