willard talking law
why do we insist on talking as much as we do? we run off at the mouth because we are inwardly uneasy about what others think of us.. – Dallas Willard
from Dallas Willard‘s spirit of disciplines
how rarely are we ever truly listened to and how deep is our need to be heard.. i wonder how much wrath in human life is a result of not being heard..
deep deep need.. imagining tech as it could be.. listening to every voice .. every day.. augmenting/detoxing us in our silence/solitude..
in witnessing, the role of talking is frequently overemphasized… silence and esp true listening are often the strongest testimony of our faith.. a major problem for christian evangelism is not getting people to talk , but to silence those who thru their continuous chatter reveal a loveless heart devoid of confidence in god.. as miguel de unamuno says, ‘we need to pay less attention to what people are trying to tell us, and more to what they tell us w/o trying’
why do we insist on talking as much as we do? we run off at the mouth because we are inwardly uneasy about what others think of us..
maté trump law et al
eberhard arnold observes: ‘people who love one another can be silent together’ but when we’re w those we feel less than secure with, we use words to ‘adjust’ our appearance and elicit their approval.. otherwise, we fear our virtues might not receive adequate appreciation and our shortcomings might not be properly ‘understood’..
in not speaking, we resign how we appear (dare we say how we are) to god. and that is hard.. why should we worry about others opinions of us when god is for us.. but we do..
esse quam videri ness
how few of us live w quiet, inner confidence, and yet how many of us desire it.. but such inward quiet is a great grace we can receive as we practice not talking.. and when we have it, we may be able to help others who need it..
quiet in a room et al