adding page this day: maria’s Kahlil Gibran on Silence, Solitude, and the Courage to Know Yourself

You talk when you cease to be at peace with your thoughts;
And when you can no longer dwell in the solitude of your heart you live in your lips, and sound is a diversion and a pastime.
And in much of your talking, thinking is half murdered.
For thought is a bird of space, that in a cage of words may indeed unfold its wings but cannot fly.

There are those among you who seek the talkative through fear of being alone.
The silence of aloneness reveals to their eyes their naked selves and they would escape.
And there are those who talk, and without knowledge or forethought reveal a truth which they themselves do not understand.
And there are those who have the truth within them, but they tell it not in words.
In the bosom of such as these the spirit dwells in rhythmic silence.

rumi words law: there is a voice that doesn’t use words.. listen – Rumi


from nic askew newsletter – by chris mcleod []:

most meaningful experiences have something in common. words are not enough. something is always lost when we attempt to explain… the language we use somehow confines what we feel. i’m somehow aware that the language i am so sued to using always has an undercurrent of finality

language as control/enclosure.. shaw communication law.. et al

by being still. by allowing myself to be seen. by surprising myself about what i notice about others when i lose the stories that i’ve told myself.. by allowing myself to know that here in this moment i am enough.. i can be here.. i am here

still.. notice.. enough..

as simple as ‘being here’ sounds, it means that i am not thinking about ‘there’.. being here means .. this is enough.. ‘this is enough’ means i can trust the feeling that i can’t explain. trust it and not need to explain it.. 

mcleod explain law

and that is the most liberating feeling i may have ever experienced..


on convo and silence and love

my buddy by Patti Smith

We didn’t have to talk then, and that is real friendship. Never uncomfortable with silence, which, in its welcome form, is yet an extension of conversation.


from Dallas Willard:


silence goes beyond solitude, and w/o it solitude has little effect.. henri nouwen observes that ‘silence is the way to make solitude a reality’.. silence and solitude do go hand in hand.. usually..

silence.. be {alone}.. still


how rarely are we ever truly listened to and how deep is our need to be heard.. i wonder how much wrath in human life is a result of not being heard..

deep deep need.. but not so much to be heard.. rather.. to connect..

imagining tech as it could be.. listening to every voice .. every day.. augmenting/detoxing us in our silence/solitude..

in witnessing, the role of talking is frequently overemphasized… silence and esp true listening are often the strongest testimony of our faith..  a major problem for christian evangelism is not getting people to talk , but to silence those who thru their continuous chatter reveal a loveless heart devoid of confidence in god..  as miguel de unamuno says, ‘we need to pay less attention to what people are trying to tell us, and more to what they tell us w/o trying’

beyond words ness.. rumi words law.. et al

why do we insist on talking as much as we do? we run off at the mouth because we are inwardly uneasy about what others think of us..

maté trump law et al

eberhard arnold observes: ‘people who love one another can be silent together’ but when we’re w those we feel less than secure with, we use words to ‘adjust’ our appearance and elicit their approval..  otherwise, we fear our virtues might not receive adequate appreciation and our shortcomings might not be properly ‘understood’..

nothing to prove.. shaw communication law..  et al

in not speaking, we resign how we appear (dare we say how we are) to god. and that is hard.. why should we worry about others opinions of us when god is for us.. but we do..

esse quam videri ness

how few of us live w quiet, inner confidence, and yet how many of us desire it.. but such inward quiet is a great grace we can receive as we practice not talking.. and when we have it, we may be able to help others who need it..

quiet in a room et al


Pernille Ripp (@pernilleripp) tweeted at 5:18 AM – 4 Dec 2019 :
I need to stop working on the presentations I am giving in 40 minutes but there is so much left out…. (

yeah.. we all need to stop working on presentations

MindShift (@MindShiftKQED) tweeted at 4:05 AM – 4 Dec 2019 :
Allowing students to talk to each other about controversial topics has the potential to increase civic knowledge, skills, and dispositions that lead to adult civic engagement. But they need guidance of a well-prepared and knowledgeable teacher. @HKorbey (

we’re so crazy messed up


small talk


no words

beyond words ness

quiet enough to see

language as control\enclosure