susan cain – quiet

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love quiet.

(perhaps we’re all a bit of everything.. ?)

love – i see you..

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wednesday, march 7, 2012

susan cain

all the times i got the message that might introvert behavior was not normal

i made these self-negating choices so reflexively..

it’s our loss…we need people doing what they do best

key to maximize… put yourself in your best zone of stimulation..schools are geared to extroverts..

many have a serious streak of introversion..

3 calls for action:

1. stop the madness for constant group work (much more freedom, autonomy..)

2. go to the wilderness (be like buddha, have your own revelations, get inside your own head)

3. take a good look at what’s inside your suitcase and why it’s there (take the things out and grace people with them)

the courage to speak softly..


sunday, january 15, 2012

susan cain

rise of the new groupthink    via sir Ken Robinson and Dan pink

the web.. a place where we can be together alone… precisely it’s power…

the most spectacularly creative people in many fields are often introverted, according to studies by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi and Gregory Feist.
extroverted enough to exchange and advance ideas, but see themselves s independent and individualistic. not joiners by nature. 

solitude is a catalyst to innovation 

without great solitude, no serious work is possible – Picasso
we’re often so dazzled by charisma that we overlook the quiet part of the creative process. 

what distinguished programmers at the top performing companies wasn’t greater experience or better pay. it was how much privacy, personal workspace and freedom from interruption they enjoyed.    – wow   – no?

if you want to improve – you have to be the one to generate the move. demands of you personally…
group performance gets worse as group size increases.
if you have talented and motivated people, they should be encouraged to work alone when creativity or efficiency is the highest priority. – Adrian Furnham
when we take a stance diff from a group’s we activate the amygdala, a small organ in the brain associated with fear of rejetion. prof Gregory Berns calls this “the pain of independence.”

one exception – where large groups outperform individuals – and the larger the group the  better.. electronic brainstorming.
the protection of the screen mitigates many problems of group work. this is why the web has yielded such wondrous collective creations.  – via Marcel Proust calls reading the miracle of communication in the midst of solitude, that’s what the internet is too. a place where we can be alone together – and this is precisely what gives it power.

she does then spend time on – man is not an island.. life is meaningless just alone..

teams whose members collaborate remotely, from separate unis, appear to be the most influential of all. 

our spaces should encourage casual, cafe-style interactions, but allow people to disappear into personalized, private spaces when they want to be alone.  

thank you daisy’s – for sending me on this journey..

book links to amazon

Tony Baldasaro (@baldy7)

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i noticed i like myself better when i’m outgoing… happened in intramurals. why i wanted to do bb this summer.

why it matters that we don’t box people into shoulds and what we think is normal. our culture even.


staging a quiet revolution.. starting w education

most humans have this feelings.. not even just some of the time but all of the time..

starting a quiet schools network.. how to work w quiet kids in classroom… this june w 50 educators…

feeling permission to be themselves..

dear Susan et al.. please go deeper.. since now we can (free all of us.. today) .. for (blank)’s sake

there is a nother way.. ie: hosting life bits via self talk as data


via Tim Ferrisstribe of mentors.. p 13 from Susan Cain:

i wanted writing to be a permanent source of pleasure, and never to be associated w financial stress or, more generally, the pressure to achieve

hearing the voices in my head/heart of many who experimented in a lab.. seeking true freedom..

and too.. just finding Dana Meadows gem quote in her thinking in systems

in undisturbed ecosystems ..the average individual, species, or population, left to its own devices, behaves in ways that serve and stabilize the whole..

thinking we have to achieve something.. is a disturbance to our ecosystem.. much like productivity..

luxury – gaiman\degrasse whatever law

..supposed to’s


Susan Cain (@susancain) tweeted at 7:02 AM – 12 Oct 2018 :
Want to be a happy introvert? Give yourself permission to be yourself. Here are the latest findings, via Quiet pal and esteemed psychologist @sbkaufman, writing here for @sciam: (

All of this research suggests that perhaps the biggest key to being a happy introvert is simply self-acceptance; not forcing oneself to repeatedly act out of character, or to think of oneself as merely deviations from an “ideal” personality.

They found that a whopping 96% of people believed that extraverted characteristics were more valued than introverted characteristics in their society, and 82.2% of the participants also believed it was necessary to display extraverted characteristics in going about their daily life. What’s more, the majority of participants (53.6%) wanted to be more extraverted, and those who were more introverted were particularly likely to want to be more extraverted. These findings are consistent with prior work showing that in the West, 87% of people explicitly express a goal of becoming more extraverted.

But the story doesn’t stop there. Lawn and colleagues found that the introverts in their sample who were comfortable with their introversion showed higher levels of authenticity than did those who wanted to be more extraverted, and were able to achieve a level of well-being that came close to the level experienced by extraverts