[washington dc] intro’d to him from aspen ideas festival – talk shared by Mellie. caught 2 things at tail end of live q&a:
1. (only) you know what’s on your heart
no one else does. so that’s your life’s assignment.. toward eu\daimon\ia ness
2. do more (seemingly) useless stuff today
the stuff with no agenda brings us joy/bliss
Streamed live on Jul 2, 2014
Social scientists have cracked the code on happiness. By marrying ancient wisdom and new data, we can identify what brings the most happiness — and the most unhappiness — to the most people. American Enterprise Institute President Arthur C. Brooks argues that the answers should not only change the way we live our lives, but also disrupt how we govern our country.
from research – about 1/3 of americans say they are happy, 10-15% of population say they are not happy – of those –
biggest single reason people say they are unhappy is loneliness..
8 min – happiness comes from: genetics, circumstances, values/actions
genetics – 48%
age 45 ish for guys – i want to be on the road i chose
events/circumstances – (his is what we think makes us happy) – it’s 40%
follow goals – doesn’t last – maybe 6 mos
1978 study at northwester – what happened to happiness – paraplegics ok 6 mos after; hit lottery 6 mos after.. lower happiness – like it blew out the circuits
values/actions – use that 12%
faith – spiritual enlightenment
community – friendships (community – charity & friendship)
loneliest men in society – men at age 60
34 min – 89% of americans like/love their jobs.. (?) – doesn’t matter if you went to college or not.. doesn’t matter how much you make. it matters what brings value to the soul
the only people that get happiness from money are the poor
earned success – brings success – doesn’t matter what you do – as long as you create value for people
why do you do your work?
bach – for the glory of god and the good of man
opposite of earned success – learned helplessness
we’ve got to have a system that gets to earned success rather than learned helplessness
40 min – 80% decline in world poverty: globalization, free trade, property rights, entrepreneurship
ugh – this part sounds like schooling the world..
if we don’t have a policy based on our gifts to the world… we’re not going to be able to do our job – to pass on our spirit of earned success
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the latest of aei – human flourishing
4 words for people who are unhappy – money/power/pleasure/honor – 4 substitutes for happiness – formula to be miserable: use people love things, turn it around: love people use things
52 min – q on value – value is something you denominate yourself – you know what’s written on your heart – you know your vocation.. the biggest thing we can do for kids is help them ascertain their vocation.. nobody should tell you what value means.. that’s your personal assignment your life’s course.. so important to leave that ambiguous.. doesn’t matter how you measure it.. but have to understand it and accumulate it in a meaningful way
it’s less fun when you’re motivated extrinsically
aristotle – secret to doing things that make you happy – do useless things
do more (seemingly) useless things.. today
People who rate materialistic goals like wealth as top personal priorities are significantly likelier to be more anxious, more depressed and more frequent drug users, and even to have more physical ailments than those who set their sights on more intrinsic values.
ted2016 – A conservative’s plea: Let’s work together
up to 8 min – whoa. i don’t know.
11 min – we need to get less predictable..
liberals need conservatives and their obsession w/free markets.. and conservatives need liberals and their obsession w/poverty
13 min – be the person who blurs the lines…
if we want to solve the problem of polarization today .. we have to solve the contempt problem.. t.. answer with (practice) warmheartedness
Arthur Brooks (@arthurbrooks) tweeted at 6:01 AM – 30 Aug 2018 :
Excited to share that I’ll be joining the Harvard community as a professor and senior fellow at @Kennedy_School and @HarvardHBS in the summer of 2019. You can read more about the appointment here: https://t.co/OZZeeFcArb (http://twitter.com/arthurbrooks/status/1035135405778190338?s=17)
Matt Lewis (@mattklewis) tweeted at 4:36 AM – 12 Mar 2019 :
In ‘Love Your Enemies,’ @arthurbrooks says that for every mean tweet, you must send FIVE positive ones. Don’t miss our talk about why contempt is worse than anger–& why people in politics are stoking contempt. WATCH & LISTEN to our FULL conversation–> https://t.co/CHBsTFuOQchttps://t.co/HMTaxBO3zd (http://twitter.com/mattklewis/status/1105417257558118400?s=17)15 min – fake it till make it..smiling – 19 human smiles
Arthur Brooks (@arthurbrooks) tweeted at 7:15 AM – 20 Apr 2019 :
Contempt in American politics is based on a mistaken assumption: that there is no room for common ground, so there is no reason not to polarize with insults. That is almost always incorrect.
My case for loving your enemies in the @washingtonpost: https://t.co/Wddgq71c82 (http://twitter.com/arthurbrooks/status/1119590354070769664?s=17)
Engagement with *love is a human endeavor, requiring us to deal with other people — not with disembodied messagesIf you still object to my argument, you may think I am urging you to find a way to agree with your enemy. That isn’t it. Disagreement — even nonviolent protest, as King showed — is a good thing. It is the essence of the competition of ideas that brings **progress and excellence. Love and agreement are not necessarily complementary, or even desirable. If your opponent makes a good point, by all means have the humility to be persuaded, but only if warranted by the facts and your morals.
Arthur is president of aei