michael fratkin
intro’d to Michael in his convo with Nikola here:
Life, Death and Palliative Care
19 min – wisdom from listening carefully
20 min – on the – we are more24 min – practical hunger to integrate..27 min – for this moment.. the best i can do is pry my eyes/heart/mind as wide open as possible to receive all the info that’s right here on this side of the veil.. and follow my passion to put that to work in helping serving other people28 min – most crucial lesson after 25 yrs… 8 yrs: ira – 4 things that matter most: 1\ forgiveness.. self and 2\ others… 3\ love/connection/engagement/relationship…4\ gratitudei forgive you, you forgive me, i love you, thank you31 min – on being innately programmed.. to die, find mates, et al33min – biggest challenge: ambivalence and anxiety36 min – visionaries see world as it could be..38 min – last 70 yrs.. we have made it worse for people dying.. not better..Ie: depersonalization of individual in industrialism… health designed around disease rather than people (bj), we’ve made great strides to extend life.. but we’ve actually made the end of life.. which everyone goes thru.. worse… to some of our attention should go toward that..
45 min – when facing someone facing death: assume nothing…how lonely/isolating it can be to have people assume they understand.. because they haven’t stepped in to ask..47 min – on the diff between pain and suffering.. and relieving suffering so that the person can figure out what matters and how to complete… figure that out with them and then help them accomplish it.. that’s sometimes doing things.. but more often being present…51 min – now is when life is happening.. that’s where most of my advice comes from
54 min – monarch butterflies don’t make that trip.. but monarch butterfly does.. that’s enough immortality for me..56 min – what living life in the present moment is.. is to follow what interests you..and explore it with everything you’ve got
58 min – are you living your life right now as if it doesn’t go on forever.. if not.. are you missing something…1:00 – tools: love and humor1:16 – nikola: my show is really about ethics.. not technology1:26 – about 3/4 cancer patients die – same as 35 yrs ago.. they do live longer.. and better.. but still die.. so the need to take care of that end time..1:27 – while we’re working on cures et al… i’m interested in us caring about what’s happening now while we’re working on making a future that is different1:30 – i’m not for or against anything other than what people determine for themselves..1:41 – something about the present moment… that if you’re in it .. it’s so far reaching1:44 – i’m not much into debates.. but rather looking for synergies.. the work i do.. there’s not much room for righteousness1:48 – sum up: bj miller – i know some of you are working on this.. meanwhile… i’d like any/all of you to attend to needs of those around you… and yourself… what matters most .. right now..1:50 – did i love, did i live, did i matter…
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dying is not a medical experience .. it’s a human experience…
death is always illuminated by soul… brimming with actionable wisdom..
how we regret the past and worry about the future we can lose ourselves..
6 min – is it true that there’s never enough time..? how much life is a whole life
what has awed me the most is people who embrace the immediacy of their lives
for both of them their attention was dominated by love
10 min – the physical distress is most often manageable
11 min – for those of us who face our own death it helps to be deeply related to reality
15 min – mid wifery – must trust the process… learn from the process…
17 min – what matters most at the side of a dying human being.. is presence.
for death we rarely prepare at all.. we back into the single most potent life experience… and we find ourselves surprised when confronted with what’s been broadcast to us from within us… from our first inkling of self awareness
18 min – here we are. here and now. .. when you get opportunity to serve/witness dying of fellow human being: manage yourself so that you can be present. don’t just do something.. sit there.
be you. 