like asking whales in sea world if they want the walls of their tank painted black or blue and then when they pick blue.. saying it was their free/legit choice/voice..
we keep saying things that people say..(ie: #whatevervoice) are natural (for legit free people to say/think/be).. but really it’s just whalespeak.. meaning.. it’s just what we’ve all been taught/trained/oppressed into saying/thinking/being.. by being offered only a finite set of choices w/in some agenda not our own.. we don’t even know what we want/need..
often used words/phrases to promote this: voice, seat at the table, et al.. any form of m\a\p keeps us not-us
what we need is a means to undo this hierarchical listening to ourselves/others/nature.. or we’ll never get back/to the fittingness we need.. for the dance to dance
whales act/whalespeak/whatever as they do because they have been stripped (via the supposed to’s of sea world et al) of their essence.. and so they ungoingly seek to fill those missing pieces with whatever – ie: gabor on addiction/trauma/needs
brown belonging law: the opposite of belonging.. is fitting in.. true belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are.. it requires you to be who you are.. and that’s vulnerable.. –Brené Brown..
we need to listen for that.. first.. otherwise we’re just spinning our wheels in the tragedy of the non common