#howdesignlive conference… may 2014:
19 min – anxiety is experiencing failure in advance
(seth said – most profound sentence i’ve ever written in my life)
anxiety is an accidental by-product of the modern age… 150 years ago we invented this idea that dancing with fear was something that economy would pay us to do…
35 min – if you feed the community first – you get better at dancing with fear
For the [creative person], what’s going on outside is trivial compared to what is going on inside… Don’t try to change the structure of the outside world [hoping that] then you’ll be fine, then you’ll be creative and then you’ll be brave. No. First, figure out how to be creative and brave and courageous, and the outside world will change on your behalf…
It’s always the same case — it’s always the case of you’re a human, trying to connect to another human. And if you just pick one human that you can change for the better, with work that might not work — that’s what art is.
little panic – What It Is Like to Live in the Stranglehold of Anxiety
“This terrible truth binds us all: fear there’s a single, unattainable, correct way to be human.”
There is a way to be and I’m not being it, and I don’t know how to change. Is there someone I should be the exact copy of, and they’ve forgotten to introduce me? Or maybe a person is supposed to be a fact, like an answer that doesn’t change, and I’m more like an opinion, which the world doesn’t want?
Is this what real life is then? An endless effort to match the story of yourself someone else tells?
When she is finally diagnosed with a panic disorder that gives shape and validity to her lifelong experience, she meets her diagnosis with elated relief. ..“Ever since I have been ill, I have longed and longed for some palpable disease, no matter how conventionally dreadful a label it might have,
I feel weirdly solid, like I’m a valid human being. I didn’t even realize my feelings were categorizable as symptoms. Panic disorder. The air is softer, expansive, as though the world has suddenly opened and is unfolding every opportunity my panic had once ruled out. Every single thing in my life now makes perfect sense: the connections I couldn’t bridge; the choices I couldn’t make; the strange switches the natural world and all its sunsets turned on and off in me.
Separation anxiety handicaps its captors, preventing them from leaving bad relationships, moving far from home, going on trips, to parties, applying for jobs, having children, getting married, seeing friends, or falling asleep. Some people are so crippled by their anxiety they have panic attacks in anticipation of having a panic attack.
My fear and my conviction were the same: that I was the flaw in the universe; the wrongly circled letter in our multiple-choice world. This terrible truth binds us all: fear there’s a single, unattainable, correct way to be human.
Johann Hari (@johannhari101) tweeted at 1:00 AM on Mon, Jul 02, 2018:
The deadliest thing we can do – when it comes to depression and anxiety – is to ignore the deep underlying reasons why they are rising, and to continue to refuse to deal with them. It’s a terrible betrayal of the most vulnerable people.
Medium (@Medium) tweeted at 5:13 AM – 26 Aug 2018 :
Your anxiety is following you everywhere not because there’s something wrong with you, but because there’s something wrong with your understanding of the human brain and happiness, writes @briannawiest https://t.co/8FyQDR3uH9 (http://twitter.com/Medium/status/1033673690930716672?s=17)
Why You Can’t Stop Creating Problems in Your Mind
We’re not built to be happy. We’re built to survive.
Our brains are designed to worry, and they’re good at it.
We were born to survive, which is to create.
Suffering dissolves when we focus on creating rather than feeling. Instead of being at the whim of how the world makes us feel, we focus on how we can create what we want from what exists.
Good and bad become irrelevant when the focus isn’t “What can I enjoy?” But, rather, “What can I create?”
Obstacles become opportunities. Life becomes an incredible journey.
Matt Haig (@matthaig1) tweeted at 12:41 AM – 4 May 2019 :
Anxiety does not mean you are weak. Anxiety forges you. Living with anxiety, turning up and doing stuff with anxiety, takes a strength most will never know. Have anxiety a while and you have lived several lifetimes, and have won many invisible wars. (http://twitter.com/matthaig1/status/1124564780117843968?s=17)